It is certainly understandable why you would be so sensitive to people throwing around the terms suicide when you lost your friend to it. It is a reality to you where as to most people its just words and nothing will ever come out of it. Have you tried explaining this to the people who say it to you? I know with me I have a really hard time and get pissed off sometimes hearing mundane issues from people thinkging its the end of the world over nothing. I have lost 2 of my daughters and a few other people in the last 3 years and hearing miniscule issues really frustrates me and sometimes I ask them what they will do when something serious happens in their life.
But anyway, maybe you tell them to go do it because you know that they wont and it is attention seeking. Dont show it attention and they wont bring it up to you anymore. I would talk with her and tell her that if she really truly feels that way then she should go seek help but you cant help her and you cant hear about it all the time like its nothing. I bet she will stop or atleast cut back. I really dont blame you for getting upset though.

It absolutely DOES have everything to do with Miriam. Of course you miss her, and when these dopes say they're going to do something like that, all you can think of is Miriam, and it HURTS. It's almost like an insult to Miriam because they really don't mean it. They're just seeking attention, which is a cruel thing to do, especially to you!! I don't blame you for getting upset.

Talk to your friends when they're NOT feeling bad and just bring up the subject - tell them you're not going to put up with their little "suicide snits" anymore, and if they continue, you'll go somewhere else for friendship. That ought to stop them. You don't need this kind of aggravation - you're trying to heal. God bless you and take care. Hugs, Lee

i am so sorry for what has happened... u never mentioned that to me before... so it really surprises me....now i am gonna have the chance to act at the big sister for a while yay =]

see what u have been through was a shock, a turner that can change anyone's life... like our personalities are changin slowly over the years, but when a shock occurs there will be a harsh hange the will take time to cope with... i had major three shocks in my life and they could change me COMPLETELY. what i kno forsho is that even though we break up any kind of relationship... but we are still clung to it somehow.... So ur still clung to ur former gf... And her death was a shock for u that u will need to deal with .. ur friends just don't understand it, u can't really blame them though... if they lived their whole lives tryin to understanding hos u feel, they wouldn't be able to...because they haven't been in ur situation....so it is essentially that u accept that ur different in this manner..

Then try to explain how it terrifies u to ur friends... if they were true ones they would stop mentioning that every time they feel down... make them understand that u feel bad on wat happened to ur gf because u cared about her, just the way u do with them! Tell them that u dare about them and it hurts u just mentioning it...

In the end we are humans dude... u can't prevent anything that was meant to happen... her death was meant to happen, whether she killed her self or her soul was taken away by God! when and where we will die never changes... but it is a matter of who is doing it!

If u ever u wanted to talk about bro i m here

my name is vader.I amm 63 years old and i am old enough to be your grandmother.In May of 2009,my boyfriend Brad of twelve years and soon in May it will be two years.People who do this think that people who committ suicide as being a joke.It isnt.Suicide is the final act and i have found out that Brad was depressed over a great deal of things,but Brad was not a talkactive guy.He was always quiet and this is what bothered me.I will be honest.Brad and i were having very serious problems and he wouldnt talk about them.This shows that some people are very,very in sesitvie and do me a favor...please get a new set of friends someone who understands that you going through shock and denial and someone who will help you comes to terms with it and someone who help with your goals.This is my advice to you.Thanks a bunch Vader and the cat.

Joseph, I'm so sorry for your loss. I think your anger stems from what Lulu said. People throw that 'suicide' word around like it's nothing. They haven't experienced what you have. I have found the same with many words. My sister was murdered 15 months ago. Stabbed to death. In general conversation, whether I'm in the conversation or just overhear a conversation I now am aware of the way society uses our language. I hear things like 'it just slays me' and 'that kills me". and I cringe. I used to use terms like that too. Not anymore.
Just keep in mind, these people have no idea the pain and sorrow that some words trigger in us. I would ask your friends not to use phrases like that around you. They know what happened, they need to think twice before they say something like that.