Bereavement Support Group

Are you grieving the loss of a loved one? Whether you lost someone recently or it's been years, grief and its accompanying emotions can be complicated to cope with. Join our online support group to connect with a supportive group of people who really know how you feel. Help is right here.

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koolman 03/26/2011

Sometimes, when I'm feeling really low, I can feel my brother wanting to hang out with me. I can really feel his soul, his soothing calm, but also the darkness, the troubled life he led. Part of me wants to "go there", at least for awhile, another part of me doesn't want to live in that darkness, so the ole' selfish survival mechanism kicks in, and I try to think of something else. Naturally, been having trouble relaxing...suppose I should just embrace the dark void...be nice to see something light and rosy on the other end of it...Jesus, please help me out here.

Any other folks been having trouble relaxing?

deleted_user 03/26/2011

When my husband first died, there was NO WAY I could relax. I had some of the worst visions/dreams. I think trauma and grieving can cause these - and of course you're so terribly upset and the nerves are tied up in knots that it's impossible to relax.

If it's been fairly recent since you've lost your brother you can expect this grieving to go on for awhile. But each day gets just a tiny bit easier than the last ~ you can't really tell, but it does. Time really IS the best healer.

Sometimes keeping a journal helps -- writing down how you're feeling each day and what's going on. That seems to help lots of folks. I wish you the very best. I'm so sorry for your loss. Take care and God bless. Hugs, Lee

KarenKD 03/26/2011

Hi sweety... Im so sorry to hear about your loss. My fiance commited suicide in 08 and I will be the first to tell you I thought I was going crazy. Nothing was right. I had terrible thoughts and nightmares. I promise, your not alone in your thoughts. I know everyone says time heals all wounds and that is very hard for you to believe right now but I swear it does... One day I just woke up and knew everything would be ok! If you need to talk, cry , scream or just vent, please feel free to im me anytime. My yahoo im is brtndr4u01. Lots of love

deleted_user 03/27/2011

I don't know of any greater pain than losing a sibling. From what I've read, you two were very close; and I'm so sorry for your loss. What you wrote, about being able to feel him, at times is very beautiful. I believe he also can feel you, too. I think you're a very giving person; caring person. And I believe through your life experiences you are so well equipped to bring comfort, and sound advice to others going through similar circumstances that you, yourself have been through. My heart and thougts go out to you.

vader 03/27/2011

koolman....this is vader and I am so worried about you.Please do not do anything drastic and remember I am always here if you want to just talk.vader.

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