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I lost my mother when I was 10, 18 years has gone by and I still wish she was here. I have a step mother who I am truly grateful for, but its different with her. I was doing alright until last year. I lost my grandfather and my sister in-law in the same week. I was very close with both. Since then my anxiety and depression has been through the roof and I can't seem to pull myself out of it. Some days seem easier than others but for the most part I just keep wondering why and I can't make sense of it. Its driving me nuts!
It is important to grieve each passing. Do you feel that you have done that? Obviously this question is more aimed at your mother than at your Grandfather and sister in law, but it applies to them as well.
I took a grieving class, and there were a couple people there who had taken a long time to move on; in fact they had not really moved on. I think it was because they held onto the past. They felt obligated to be strong for others, and they never allowed them selves to grieve fully.
Please look into the possibility of taking a grieving class. Many hospitals offer them, and I suspect that many churches do as well. If you are not that into religion, be upfront and tell the person who leads the class. They may have a spiritual orientation to the class, but if they are truly a caring person they will try to accommodate your personal belief system.
One last comment, I try not to make sense of it all. That is like trying to change the past; we can't do that. I went through my share of "what ifs", that lead no where fast.
Gentle hugs
I did fully greive for my mother. But I did not for my grandfather or sister in-law, I didn't have time it happened so fast and my fiance was taking it really hard so I did feel obligated to be strong for him.
I don't really think "why did they have to go" more of "what do I do without them" I think the reason my mother's passing is bothering me so much now because I'm getting married this year and it would be a lot easier if she was here.
Thanks for the advice, I am definitely going to look into grieving classes. I had no idea about them.
What I learned about loss through my own losses (my 16 year old brother was killed in a motorcycle accident 40 years ago) is you never get over it....you just get through it with the help of others.
You will grieve with every special event that your loved one should be at (i.e. your wedding and other milestones). It is normal, however, talk to someone about it to help you through it(i.e. a clergy, a close friend or family member who knew your mom or who has gone through a similar loss). Perhaps you can honor your mom and other family members at your wedding :)
I haven't ever heard of a grief class, but I'm sure it exists. I run a grief support group in the Chicago land area....and there is a grief recovery program in this area. I used the grief recovery program years ago and it was very helpful.
Wishing you the best (((((Hugs)))))
Continuing hugs