I found some new special someones. They appeared in the form of my sisters' newborn sons.

Nah, I didn't do medication. I got on my bike and started pedalling. Exercise has saved my very soul.

Why do you think medication will do the trick? I ended up drinking to kill the pain. I ran away from home to try and escape the pain.
However.......none of that worked.
Time truly is the the healer along with talking about your loved one.
I lost my brother 37 years ago in a motorcycle accident. He was 16 and I was 5 days shy of 15. It ripped my world apart and there wasn't much help available back then......so I muddled through it alone.
You never get over it.....you just get through it.
I am happy to say that time did indeed help heal me. I found ways to honor my brother instead of staying helpless and alone. I have reached out to my brother's friends where we all keep his memories alive to this day.
I was going through some things at my parents home and found a bunch of his stuff in storage. It was bitter sweet and I found a ring of his. I wore it every day for the past few weeks, but alas....I was allergic to the metal and had to take it off. I was a bit sad, but it is what it is. I still have tons of pictures of the two of us together......what sweet memories.
Don't get me wrong. I still cry and miss him like crazy......but knowing that we will be together again someday is somehow a comfort.
I too hope you find an outlet that will bring you comfort in the near future. Keep searching to find something outside of medication if you can....ok?
Come here to vent, cry, or just walk through some good memories......we understand.....really we do ((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))

After my son died, I had to go on some meds for only about a month. It helped with the first pains and to get me thru the cremation and all that I had to go thru. After that I am trying so many other things. I talk to people that will listen and understand. One thing I did that helped so much is that I planted a tree in the memory of my son. When times get real hard on me I will take a chair out there and talk to him. I know he listens and just makes me feel better afterwards. I do not think you ever get over it. Like others say, you get thru it. There are times that I still have to take things a moment at a time instead of a day at a time. Find someone that wont judge you for feeling like you do and will just listen. I find that just talking and sharing stories and memories help. You can always come on here and just say what you feel. I wish you the best and sending lots of hugs!

Cathy

Remeron. At low levels (15 MG/night, can be split in half also), supports sound sleep. At higher doses, is an anti-depressant but would really avoid going there without a real psychiatric consultation. I don't know how old you are or if you are in the US but every county in every state has a mental health clinic. Time doesn't necessarily "heal all", sorry to say; or at least, not heal it "well". You want more help, you should get it. Contact social services and see if you qualify to be seen in a mental health clinic without your parents' agreement.

I am a counseling student and almost ready to graduate with an emphasis on grief. Medication can be helpful short term to help you sleep and maintain emotional wellness until you are able to find some coping mechanisms that work for YOU. They will be different for everyone and sometimes avoiding it for awhile (short term) can be most effective, however eventually it will have to be dealt with. My grandpa and dad passed within six weeks of each other and in the middle of that I graduated with my bachelor degree in psychology. I didn't fully "grieve" for 3 years because there were so many things going on that I couldn't "feel" so much intense emotions all at once. However, medication should always be done with talk therapy at the same time.

Do you associate with any particular faith? I have facilitated GriefShare which is a great faith based resource. By your post I am gathering that you are not yet 18? My papers and research has been on grief during different developmental stages and it is so different depending on where you are (high school, college, etc.) as well as who you lost.

Time does not heal all, however it can change how you feel about the event. My little sister passed almost three years ago at the age of 37 from cancer and I can tell that time has changed the hurt to warm memories.

I commend you for coming on this site and seeking help because grief is such a hard thing to talk about with those who know you well and want to offer their "advice". Sometimes it is nice to have someone be with you were you are and listen. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and if there is anything I can help you with (different coping strategies etc. from my research) do not hesitate to private message me.

Mary

It's all about love. The love you felt for your lost love can be re-formed by forming friendships with NEW, surrogate loved ones, friends. And, yes, I think talking with OTHER people who ALSO knew and loved your departed loved one helps reduce the burden and re-fuse all of your hearts which have been ripped to shreds. Main thing is to remain open in your heart, not be afraid to talk about it, not be afraid to hurt. Through the hurt, you do heal.

I began watching VIDEOS of my brother, when he was alive and well, despite the fact that I was scared to, for fear it would trigger painful memories, but, in fact, it was very soothing and triggered PLEASANT memories. So maybe that's an option for you-? Now I can watch videos and see pictures of him anytime without bursting into tears. I just think of him when he was alive and well, and realize that that's how he is NOW. The sadness and sickness which consumed him was only a passing, transitory phase.

I lost my dad last year. I went on an anti-depressant for 3 months. It helped with the intense grief but I felt it caused me to be emotionally stunted. I felt apathetic. I couldn't cry even when I wanted to. I weaned myself.

Medications can help but because your grief is due to a situation, it is called situational depression. I believe a therapist may serve your needs best. IMO...