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Brads 52 nd birthday-2/18/2011

vader
vader
Brad would have been 52 on 2/18/2011.People want me to forget.I cant.I cant get pass it and the grief therapy isnt working.I have been crying almost everyday and noone is around when I do.I hate to let people see me cry.After i cry...i feel forgiven.I feel that Brad has forgiven me and I want to feel this.Suicide is a personal thing and noone has helped ,me at all.I feel abandoned.I feel alone and I feel rejected. We shared a great many things and I miss this.I miss his smile and I miss his arms around me and noone should feel this way.Yet people tjhink i coujld move on and I cant.I have lost the love of my life and when this happens there is nothing anybody can do.So remember us survivors of suicide hurt also and this is like the song from the Brooklyn Bridge....the worse that can happen to anyone.
LoriFla
LoriFla
I'm so sorry for your loss.I wish I could take away your pain but I am still grieving from the loss of my mother, son, brother, and father. Some days I don't know how I get through, but we are all here to help one another in any way we can. For me it helps to know that someone cares. There are many going through the same pain as we are. I'm grateful to have this site to turn to in time of need, or if I can say a kind word to someone else. Thoughts and prayers are with you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You have nothing to be forgiven FOR, YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME. Self blame and taking responsibility for this action is common, all suicide survivors feel it. It's NOT legitimate. Suicide is NOT a rational act, no ONE thing causes it. Even an argument or a breakup is not the actual cause, it might just be the catalyst. YOU DID NOTHING.

If your grief counselor isn't working for you, find another one. You would probably benefit from some medication, especially anxiety medication. Talk to your physician about prescribing this for you. Beating yourself up is not healthy but WE ALL DID IT to ourselves at some point. He made a choice, the reasons we may not fully know in this lifetime but it was his choice not YOURS.

An excellent book that will help you understand what you're feeling and why you're feeling it is Theresa Rando Ph.D., "How To Go On Living when Someone You Love Dies".
jill
vader
vader
to all who replied I want to say thank.I got an excellent book today.It is John Bradshaw Healing the Shame that Binds You and I am so tired of the being ashamed and the gossip and whispers.People just dont understand that suicide isnt rational and I did not know that Brad was in all of this pain or else I would have tried to get him help.But I am go thankful for all of your replied.Will write again.vader