Bereavement Support Group
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It will be two years since i lost my Brad and I am finding out more and more about his secret life everyday.I am in a very bad depression and i feel so low.I feel like everyone has abandoned me.Suicide is a big taboo.Yet there are books,movies and talk shows about it.They gloriify ing.However,suicide is not to be glorifed.The survivors like myself are finding it very hard to understand and wonder what we did wrong.We are finding out that people simply do not understand.We are finding out that we are the victims of vile gossip.The whispers.The lies.This is the betrayal of the worst kind.And there isnt anything I can do about it.Why one of my best friends turned on me I dont know.I am not famous.I do not have a lot of money and i like certain things that she does not.But Gina Lied and her lies have caused me to remember how good the friendship was and I won der why she did this.And the truth is this.In times of real crisis we find out who our friends are and we must deal with it.And I am still in mourning over the death of Brad and i will never get over it.The trauma of it is just too mcu.I am trying to rebuild my life without Brad and I am finding it very hard.But a friend like Gina did the betrayal of the worst kind and I will never forgive her and this hurts more then Brads death.How many of you have been betrayed or the victim of lies that were not true?
And about Brad, you know darn well it was not your fault. He was a drug addict, he treated you badly, and he is 100% responsible for his life and death. Did you ever look into that grief group?
In my opinion, it would be better to spend less time focusing on how he died and more on the fact that , Yes, Brad's dead. Now what?How will you go forward with your life? Perhaps it's time to start working through your grief. Like Scott said above--have you tried any face to face grief groups? They really can be quite helpful. Sometimes, after experiencing a significant loss, it does unfortunately affect friendships. I'm sorry to tell you that that is true. Sometimes we push others away without realizing it, and sometimes I think our friends become afraid that "death " is contagious!" Sounds so silly but people--even our closest friends, don't always behave rationally.
My best friend (my son's God mother) lost her husband in 2006 and started pushing me away. I was crushed. I lost my son in 2009, and started pushing people away, and then it dawned on me why my former friend behaved the way she did. I missed her, and finally sent her a Christmas card this past year, and we are finally putting the pieces back together. But we had 26 years of friendship to build on before it fell apart. Working through grief takes hard WORK. Maybe for some people, they can just come on here to DS and and write occasionally and that works for them. Not for me. I saw a counselor for over a year, was involved with several face to face grief groups plus DS. In addition, I attend church regulary and participate in a number of activities like choir and various committees--things that keep me busy and focused on helping others. Along with the that , we took in 2 homeless young men for a year, a few months after our son's death. They were complete strangers--it was something we did on faith alone--but we felt they deserved a second chance at getting their lives turned around. We could no longer do that for our son so felt It was the least we could do for someone elses's son. HAving young life in the house again lifted my spirits. ALL of it together helped me cope.I don't know how any of this translates into your life, but what I learned in my "Griefshare" group is that we are the ones who benefit the most when we reach out to help others. Please give that some consideration. Hugs, Cherie