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be happy your loved one isn't famous(ish)

neilster
neilster
WORST NIGHT OF MY LIFE

monday night... my brother 44, died heart attack, 2.5 months ago.. i was getting better sort of.. on monday i went to his city where he was a comedian and they did a whole night dedicated to him.

HORRIBLE!! Like being at a funeral for his personlity rather than his body/soul... they loved him but the honesty was jarring.. i was the only person from his family so everybody was ok and i was crying the whole way though.

At the end they played a 10 minutes retrospective of his life from when he was a small boy right up until last days, photos i knew all from our life together while for the crowd they were just cute photos..

Today i am destroyed... it was worse than the funeral... more honest, more of his friends... it was not good, so be happy if your loved one will NOT have a night dedicated to them.. it is quite far from a roaring good time to say the least.

Good luck to us all.
cheerryG
cheerryG
I am sorry that what should have been so special, was so traumatic.
The fact that so many cared for your brother, that they dedicated the time ,thought,and creativity to his memory should be of great comfort to you. Maybe if you had another family member with you would have changed your perspective of the evening.
Personally, I would love it if someone even wanted to talk to me about my dear Ken or Les. Yes it might upset me (as it did you) but people seem to forget so fast, and only us left behind are left to remember. God bless G-
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am so sorry that your pain has been made worse by something that should have helped. What helped me when my dad died was writing him a letter and reading it out loud to him. I hope you feel better soon. I wish there was more I could do for you.
J0KEYJ
J0KEYJ
Biggest Biggest hugs ever.Loss is so painful ..I have lost people and I say they are never gone they are locked in my heart forever. ..your brother being a comedian ..I guess loved seeing people smile that was his forte in life..on that night he would love the smiles and you must be so proud of him..he must of had a true gift someone who made people smile..he was beside you that night so you stand proud he was a very amazing person
duane
duane
I am so sorry that you had to go through this. When my brother died there was so many people that I could not even grieve in peace until the funeral was over. However the party atmosphere was my brother and it was a fitting tribute for him though I just wanted to be left in a dark room to cry. Grief is not easy! God bless
neilster
neilster
Yeah hey gang it's me again.. honestly now that i'm recovering from the night i gotta say a lot of the pain was from the roasting they did of my brother's bad traits... he was a comedian, but still very coarse personality who made people laugh on stage, but made more angry and hurt off stage.

This is the truth that i was emotionally abused by him just as his friends were, but me it was since i was a kid. I loved the guy and wish he was back, just like his friends, but the real pain was we had to admit his faults were more than minor... and his heart attack certainly fit the personality he had.

Hard to swallow, but that's a lot harder to listen to than family.. a rooom of comedians do NOT pull punches, it was rough stuff... this was not the michael jackson tribute nor lady di! :)
barbarame
barbarame
Gentle hugs to help you through what is a very difficult time. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's suggested that most comedians (this is a generalization) are really quite unhappy and sometimes angry people. I think this is proven out by some famous comedians in the past who were serious drug abusers and died as a result. I'm so sorry you had to suffer the result of his torment and that this particular occasion hurt you so much. I know about "famous" to a certain extent. The entire county I live in knows about my daughter. People I don't even know remember what happened and convey that to me if the occasion allows. My God, what a testimony, what an insane act, my poor tormented baby. But she's with God now, I saw her, so it's okay. And you will take one step forward for every two steps you take backward. God bless you.
jill