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Bad dreams

BlueYonderDreams
BlueYonderDreams
My dad passed away from cancer on October 12. He has suffered with severe back pain since August that kept being misdiagnosed as arthritis. It wasn't until 11 days before he passed that he was diagnosed with cancer. Knowing it was cancer magnified his suffering in my mind and I couldn't get his suffering out of my head. Eventually I stopped thinking of it, but I dream of it instead. Every time I dream of him he is suffering. I had another one last night and woke feeling so horrible it took me hours to get up. I want to dream of my dad, but I wish they were good dreams. Has anyone else dealt with bad dreams of their loved ones?
koolman
koolman
No, my visions of my brother suffering mostly happened when I was awake! My dreams of him now are quite soothing, because I see him on the other side, quite comfortable, happy, and acquiring new knowledge and skills that he never seemed to find time to do here!

Also, what helps me is seeing home videos of him when he was alive and well...and happy. Any videos of your dad? These happy memories are where he is now, and I think would help you associate him with happier times-!
PatienceS
PatienceS
I lost my husband 4 months ago. Our youngest daughter is 17. We talked about dreams just last night. He died after a 7 month battle with cancer. In both of our dreams, when we dream of him, he is sick and dying. In some of mine he is dying a second time.
I have been told that because the trauma is so fresh, my sub conscience is still dealing with the death. In time the good dreams of him healthy will come. I sure hope so because these dreams are so dark and depressing.
I am sorry for your loss and hope the good and comforting dreams come soon.
Hugs
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm sorry about your father. I lost mine a year ago. Yes, I had bad dreams and still do occasionally. I've also had good ones-since, so know it can get better.. When he first died it was a complete shock and I would wake up unable to breathe with what doctor said appeared to be anxiety attacks. I lost my Mom when I was 16, so my Dad and I were very close. My doctor prescribed a mild anti depressant that was also a mild sedative and it helped. ONce I was able to sleep, I was at least able to function. Good Luck.