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As Long As I\'m Living
I\'m grateful for the chance to share with you all how much I loved/love my daughter. I remember the first time I felt her move. I was around 3 months pregnant when I felt her move just under my heart a single gentle movement like a butterfly fluttering across the top of my stomach. I\'m so glad that I had the privilege of carrying, loving, nurturing my children; they a part of me and me a part of them.
Like any family we\'ve had and will continue to have our ups and downs. One thing that has never changed is that I have always loved my children. As the book by Robert Munch says, I\'ll like you forever, I\'ll love you for always. As long as I\'m living my baby you\'ll be. I attended a seminar when Cara and John were about 13 and 14 years old where the lady doing the seminar read that little book to us. As she read, the words were really getting to me. I was kind of looking down to hide the shine of the tears I was struggling to hold back. I looked up for a moment and I noticed the lady was fannng herself in an effor to control her own emotions and then I didn\'t feel so foolish and self conscious.
As I sat there I thought about how long it had been since I had told my children how much I loved them. I knew I had to get that book and give it to them no matter how much it might irritate them. So for Christmas they got that book as a joint gift. The kids \"got it\" and it was a moment I\'ll always tresure. The message is as true today as it was then. What I\'m trying to say is probably as clear as a glass bell. Show the people you love, that you love them. We all express love in a myriad of different ways. Words, touch, a special favor, sometimes even in anger because we\'re scared for our loved ones, but its all loving and it is good.
I am sad today as you all are. In spite of how much we are hurting I sincerely believe that Cara has indeed gone to heaven, and that she is with Jesus sharing a joy like none other has ever known. So my baby you rest well. I love you for always. Mama
Today is November 3, 2006. Tomorrow i will bury my daughter. The words you have just read are the words I will struggle to speak tomorrow at her funeral. There were several things I was trying to do with what I wrote. I was trying to tell my daughter one more time how much I loved/love her. I was trying to comfort my family because there have been several times in these last difficult months that we have spoken in anger to Cara because of fear and pain. I was trying to encourage people to let go, be a little mushy. I don\'t think we ever really do wrong when we serve mush. Finally I was offering the thoughts that I have to keep reaching for to comfort myself, to help us all; that Cara is in a far better place. I do believe that, but I also believe she went too soon, and that although I can\'t change what has happened to us perhaps I can help someone else.
Obviously today isn\'t November 3, 2006. What you have just read is what I wrote to read at my daughter\'s funeral and the first paragraph of the book I am writing that I hope to share with others. I am hoping that I can help people who are suffering from mental illness and or are abusing substances that are putting them and their families at risk of suffering a tragedy such am my family and I are going through. I truly hope that my words will reach the ears, hearts, and minds of people who have or know people who have the power to change the sad state of services available to help people. I find it heart breakingly sad that my daughter could not get the help that both she and I begged for.
I know this is long. I do not apologize. If you made it all the way through I thank you. If you felt sad or cried I love you. Help me please. Help yourselves... I hate to admit it but my daughter drank and drove several times. This isn\'t just my problem or the families like ours with a lost soul... Its everyone\'s problem... I can\'t and you can\'t bring my child back... but perhaps we can save someone else\'s child... perhaps we can save your child...
Cara\'s Mom Elissa
email me - emsmih41@cox.net
I\'m grateful for the chance to share with you all how much I loved/love my daughter. I remember the first time I felt her move. I was around 3 months pregnant when I felt her move just under my heart a single gentle movement like a butterfly fluttering across the top of my stomach. I\'m so glad that I had the privilege of carrying, loving, nurturing my children; they a part of me and me a part of them.
Like any family we\'ve had and will continue to have our ups and downs. One thing that has never changed is that I have always loved my children. As the book by Robert Munch says, I\'ll like you forever, I\'ll love you for always. As long as I\'m living my baby you\'ll be. I attended a seminar when Cara and John were about 13 and 14 years old where the lady doing the seminar read that little book to us. As she read, the words were really getting to me. I was kind of looking down to hide the shine of the tears I was struggling to hold back. I looked up for a moment and I noticed the lady was fannng herself in an effor to control her own emotions and then I didn\'t feel so foolish and self conscious.
As I sat there I thought about how long it had been since I had told my children how much I loved them. I knew I had to get that book and give it to them no matter how much it might irritate them. So for Christmas they got that book as a joint gift. The kids \"got it\" and it was a moment I\'ll always tresure. The message is as true today as it was then. What I\'m trying to say is probably as clear as a glass bell. Show the people you love, that you love them. We all express love in a myriad of different ways. Words, touch, a special favor, sometimes even in anger because we\'re scared for our loved ones, but its all loving and it is good.
I am sad today as you all are. In spite of how much we are hurting I sincerely believe that Cara has indeed gone to heaven, and that she is with Jesus sharing a joy like none other has ever known. So my baby you rest well. I love you for always. Mama
Today is November 3, 2006. Tomorrow i will bury my daughter. The words you have just read are the words I will struggle to speak tomorrow at her funeral. There were several things I was trying to do with what I wrote. I was trying to tell my daughter one more time how much I loved/love her. I was trying to comfort my family because there have been several times in these last difficult months that we have spoken in anger to Cara because of fear and pain. I was trying to encourage people to let go, be a little mushy. I don\'t think we ever really do wrong when we serve mush. Finally I was offering the thoughts that I have to keep reaching for to comfort myself, to help us all; that Cara is in a far better place. I do believe that, but I also believe she went too soon, and that although I can\'t change what has happened to us perhaps I can help someone else.
Obviously today isn\'t November 3, 2006. What you have just read is what I wrote to read at my daughter\'s funeral and the first paragraph of the book I am writing that I hope to share with others. I am hoping that I can help people who are suffering from mental illness and or are abusing substances that are putting them and their families at risk of suffering a tragedy such am my family and I are going through. I truly hope that my words will reach the ears, hearts, and minds of people who have or know people who have the power to change the sad state of services available to help people. I find it heart breakingly sad that my daughter could not get the help that both she and I begged for.
I know this is long. I do not apologize. If you made it all the way through I thank you. If you felt sad or cried I love you. Help me please. Help yourselves... I hate to admit it but my daughter drank and drove several times. This isn\'t just my problem or the families like ours with a lost soul... Its everyone\'s problem... I can\'t and you can\'t bring my child back... but perhaps we can save someone else\'s child... perhaps we can save your child...
Cara\'s Mom Elissa
email me - emsmih41@cox.net
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I am so with you on this. I can\'t tell my children and family enough how much I love them. While you were writing your speech for your daughter on November 3rd, I was burying my daughter- probably the most difficult thing we will ever have to face in our lives. We both know that our children are in a better place and for that we must be thankful. I think writing a book is a great idea as the resources we have available for these issues are and probably always will be lacking.
carasmom
I can\'t check my email... I don\'t know how to switch from my husband\'s email to mine... anyway I thought I\'d tell yall I\'d still like to hear from you...
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