Losing a child is one of the most painful losses.....it is still so new to you.....yes, your feeling will in time change......and the pain will lessen with fun loving memories you and your family have of your son.......but right now I know it hard to ever think of laughing again.....I lost my son 14 years ago....he was my only child, and 26 at the time.....it has been a long journey of sadness and I can say now that the feeling of an elephant sitting on your chest will go away. My husband and I have our faith, which I hope you have, because without faith in God, getting through this is so much harder....you have other children that you have to help through this also and probably so many questions? The most asked question is WHY......and you will never know, this side of heaven, the answer.....so I encourage you to not go there.....and try not to get angry, I know this is hard, but anger is a wasted emotion, and right now you don't have the energy for wasted emotions.....I encourage you to sit with your other children and come up with some fun memories, maybe only one memory, per day, that you all share.....you will smile again, I promise you....but there won't be a day that goes by that he doesn't come to mind.....ever. If you have a church, I encourage you to speak to a pastor, maybe the funeral home can direct you to a grief group locally.....it helps to talk to someone going through the same thing you are and you can support one another. I didn't have other children, but I assume they are also having a difficult time dealing with the loss of their brother, they maybe need a group support too. I hope I helped, just a little.....I will be praying for you often as you start on this long and difficult journey of grief.....

Yes this has helped and thank you for taking the time to reply to me x

Big hug for you Nat..... I am so very sorry for your loss...... A RL Bereavement group for mother's who have lost children may be a big help to you.... I haven't lost a child however a close friend of mine did and a group like this was a wonderful support for her
I'm glad that you're here..... Another hug and a blessing......xo

Thank you x

I did have all the should have moments running through my mind. It does take time for the mind to move on, the heart takes longer. This is so raw for you, I have been on this journey for 8 years. I am making it through the birthdays and better on the holidays, You will learn your new normal, people will have to except you like this or not. You will learn who your true friends are. You will make new friends and they will understand. I hope this doesn't sound bleak, there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Sending understanding hugs
Penny

Thank you Penny. I have just returned from our first family holiday without my eldest son. It was so difficult! I am not sure if it was because this holiday had been planned form all of us to go and obliviously my son didn't have the opportunity or/and because we heard from the FLO whilst on holiday to say that the driver of the car had been interviewed regarding the accident, and refused to answer any questions and has now all of a sudden developed a disability. My other children are in bits and constant support. Watching them fall to pieces and not be able to give them what they need is heartbreaking in itself. XX

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your son...it is a very hard thing losing a child. I lost my son almost 11 years ago, and I still think of him every day.

I am President of a member group here on Daily Strength called ForMomsOnly--a group created for grieving mothers. Here is a link that you can cut and paste and join if you choose.
https://www.dailystrength.org/group/formomsonly

Gentle care,
AnnM, mother of Daren, President of ForMomsOnly