My name is vader and i want to write this column because I was asked today what to do after the memorial service.Well..the first thing that I would do is go home and rest...You need time alone and you must rest.After my father died...I took the phone off the hook and didnt answer the door for two days.People today mean well.But talking about a memorial service or funeral just adds stress for the family and it is advisable to leave them alone.After a week...if the house is on your way to work..why not stop in? Do not come alone...bring a bag of groceries.And do not bring any more cakes or pie..why not bring a casserole?And remember not to mention how the person died because really...if you were not related..it is none of your business.and do not ask any nosy questions...such as "What was in the Will?" Because this will only add more stress.Believe me..when my dad died..several other men that he knew died also and my father was the only one who had a will..Jeffrey didnt.And try to keep a good humour now.It is important..thanks.vader.