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After a Very Long Absence

MamasChild1
MamasChild1
Dear Friends -
Some of you, hopefully, will remember me. Many will not recognize my name. But after a long absence from the board, I felt the need to return. It's been 7 1/2 years since I lost Mama. This month will mark 7 years that I lost Dad.

Today, once again, I tried to honor Mama's wish in her last months: "Wear my clothes." We weren't quite the same size but she made her own clothesl, so giving them away has been impossible. Now, I fouind how difficult honoring her wish will be. I can't give her away or throw her away (some items can't be donated). Now, the decision is happening. It's like giving HER away - her work and herself - still in the same closet. Even donating them to the needy has been near impossible - like I'm giving HER away - her essence/ As I make the decision, I had to come here.
I wish you all the best in your healing process.
vckmag42
vckmag42
Dear MamasChild, I am so sorry for your loss; I too lost my Mom (last year) and my Dad (1996). Although it was very sad my sister took a lot of my Dad's clothes and cut them up and made a beautiful quilt out of them. If you know of anyone who has a sewing machine (or you may have one that's been handed down) you could made a remembrance quilt. I'm sure you've held on to your favorite items of hers. You could easily make a tote or bag out of a shirt or even cover a pillow with items of clothing.
Hugs to you.
Lucille6
Lucille6
(((mamaschild)))hugs.Vckmag42 had some great ideas. Maybe you could take pictures of all her clothes, she has made or the prettier pieces, you like.Print the photos and put them in an album.It sounds like you are somewhat overwhelmed with this last wish of your mothers.Many hugs
dancingd
dancingd
You suffered a great loss in a short time.

Grief has no time limits , and we all deal in the way we should.

My question I put to you with deep respect and no ill will intended ....

Would your loving Mother want you to be agonizing over her clothes , so many years after she has passed ?
Wouldn't she want to see her beloved child move forward in life , remembering all the lovely things about your life together ?
{{HUGS}}
Loving11
Loving11
MamasChild I truly understand where you're coming from. It is so difficult to let go of precious items from our loved ones. I kept a few pieces of my mother's clothing that she loved. Although it was difficult to let go of the rest, I had to because deep down I know she wanted me to donate to the needy and the rest went to family. It's a difficult decision. As difficult as this will seem, try to think about what your dear mother would want you to do. Hugs and blessings to you.