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debandy0820
debandy0820
It's been a year and a half since my mom passed and I am still not dealing with it very well,been depressed and cry at the drop of a hat.My doctor had suggested I go when mom had gotten sick and hospice had someone to talk to,but thought I could handle it on my own.It was really hard to see my mom getting sicker and there was nothing I could do about it but take care of her and cherish the time we had left.I know she is happy with my dad and the rest of her family and out of pain now,which is a comfort bur I miss her and my dad so much it hurts sometimes.We will see how this works out
Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
A year and a half is a long time, but we all process grief differently and at our own pace. I'm somewhat "lucky" Mom spent years getting weaker and it was like a 5 year good by fest; dad went in for hip surgery and a month later he passed away so it was very fast.

There is no best way to go, not for us survivors.

Please consider therapy. Many churches and hospitals have grieving classes where they help us manage the emotions of loss. And the classes are group things, so we get to meet others who are in the same boat. In my class most people are there for the loss of a spouse, next comes those of us who lost a parent, then a couple who have lost a child.

So share your story, when you are comfortable!

Gentle hugs, and welcome!
hollowheart
hollowheart
I have started counseling with the loss of my sister. I went weeks after she passed as I was just about hysterical with grief and needed to talk, so it is always different for everyone. A year and a half has been a long time for you trying to still process all this. If you have insurance see if they cover mental health. Most PPO's do. HMO's usually don't, but call if you can.

Also call the hospice that took care of your mother and ask for some recommendations. Sadly you might have to keep calling around as a lot people won't bother getting back to you, which is sad when you're already in a state of grief. When you find a counselor see if it helps. And don't be afraid to leave if it's not the right one. If you don't feel comfortable or feeling it's helping then just say you don't think it's working for you and find someone else.

No one in my family would dare go see a counselor, I think it's just the older generations in my family who can't see 'talking to someone' about their problems. I'm glad I'm an adult because if I were a minor and needed help they wouldn't even think about trying to find a counselor for me. Please seek it if you need it.