Bereavement Support Group
Are you grieving the loss of a loved one? Whether you lost someone recently or it's been years, grief and its accompanying emotions can be complicated to cope with. Join our online support group to connect with a supportive group of people who really know how you feel. Help is right here.
Hi my name is Debbie,last year my mom passed away from cancer,She was at home with me and my husband,I know I took care of her the best I could with her meds and all.Dealing with hospice was great.Everyone has told me what a great job that I did with my mother but I keep going through the what if stages and now my depression has gotten the best of me.I miss having coffee and talking to her all the time sometimes I feel her near me and telling me things are going to be okay sometimes I think I smell her perfume or hear the bells that are in her room chime.The holidays are really rough but I get through it with the help of my husband and family,the grandkids keep me busy as does baking.I now know how my mom felt after my dad passed away six years ago,I wish I was as strong as her.
And I am profoundly sorry that you need us, but given that, again I welcome you. People here understand that grieving is a very unique thing, no two people deal with loss exactly the same way.
The holidays can be extra difficult, but you recognize that, and are getting ready for it to come. Focusing on good things, like the baking and grandchildren, can be a wonderful diversion.
I read somewhere that comparison is the thief of joy. I have found that as we age we have a different outlook on death. It is possible that your mother, since she is older than you, has had the life experiences necessary to help her put death in a different context. It may not mean that she loved your father any less, or that she was stronger; it is more likely that she has more acceptance of the cycle of life.
We all have to deal with our emotions the way they are for us. The important thing is to work to understand our emotions and not let our emotions dominate us.
Gentle hugs, and again, welcome to the group!
Little things are the biggest things to miss because it didn't take much to bring us job with that person. So like you, I miss just sitting on a bench and talking with my sister, we'd do that for an hour or more and I miss the hell out of it now. I can't stand that she is gone.
Cling to your family and know you are strong. (((hugs)))