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6/18/11 and still grieving

Diane-M
Diane-M
Over a year since my brother Bob died. My grief has changed me. My sense of humor is gone. I believe in nothing. I feel like I am just marking time until my time is done here. I continue to go to therapy. There is so much to talk about there, much more than my grieving, and the time goes too quick.

I am not sleeping though I am always tired. I cannot concentrate at work. I lost a dear friend because she is tired of my "pity parties." My husband complains about how depressed I am. Mom tells me not to fall apart because she needs me. So I have started to hide my pain since it seems to disturb people.

I really feel like a walking mess. The only reason I continue to function is due to a dear friend who himself has been through a ton of shit and recognized my cries for help.A professional in several fields, he feels he can help me to find hope. I guess it's worth a try.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Maybe you need to see a psychiatrist, you might needd antidepressants for a clinical depression. I'm glad you're seeing a counselor, that will help, you could still be grieving too but stuck unable to come to terms with the death and see the other side, be gentle with yourself,medication might make all the difference. I hope you feel better.
Diane-M
Diane-M
I am already on 2 different types of anti-depressants, I have been for years. I was put on a third when Bob died. I am currently seeing a psychiatrist, a bereavement counselor, and about to start working with my friend.


Thank you. I am trying to be gentle with myself. A lot of people in my life have told me that in time I will start to feel better. I know I sound like a downer.....but I have been feeling worse.
koolman
koolman
Definitely give your dear friend who has been through a ton of shit a try. God places people in our lives when we need them.
Diane-M
Diane-M
I tend to agree about people coming into our lives for a reason.. The interesting thing is that this particular friend came into my life *because* of my brother, who had an alcohol addiction. A recovering addict himself, I reached out to him while Bob was still alive and attempting to becaome sober.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Diane, Im so sorry, I could have written those words myself. The emptiness will one day be replaced by some happy memories of our loved ones. I know one day, youll be able to talk about him without falling apart. Im not there yet. I lost my brother in 2010, at the age of 43. It was so sudden, and before I could process the grief, my mom died a year later. Its all too much that Ive developed serious health problems as a result. I refuse to go for treatment. Our lives are forever changed but I know our loved ones want better for us. We are different versions of ourselves, but we are still ourselves. Youll get a lot of support here, from many caring people; I would never have made it without everyones support here. Please inbox me whenever you feel you need someone to listen. Ive been through losing three young siblings and my parents. My little two year old is my rock, the only reason for living, because I know she needs me, otherwise, I would have checked out a long time ago..
menaceden48
menaceden48
You are describing me. No sense of humor, marking time only, and I have had 4 years of therapy. 6-18-11 caught my attention because my son Max died at the age of 21 on 11-14-2006. His birthday was 6-18-85. I work but as you put it am a WALKING MESS. You live in PA, so do I. Maybe there is a reason 6-18 caught my eye. I just happen to look at the clock on my TV every morning and its 618. THE PITY PARTY BEGINS...I automatically think of my MAX.....yes, DEALING WITH DEATH DOES CHANGE YOU. IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN ME!............if it wasn't for my taking care of my mentally retarded brother after my mom's death also in 2006, I'd probably be DEAD......Sorry I don't have much encouraging to say.....but please realize you are not the only one who feels the way you do............I take medication also, have since his death.......better feeling in the summertime, alway get down during the Holidays without HIM......... GOD BLESS YOU!