Have you been "visited" by her in a dream? If not, meditate on that tonight before you go to sleep, and maybe she'll be there in the next dream.

I think people try to help, but when they have not been through a loss like that, or have not felt the same deep emotions you are, they end up repeating cliche advice.

At least they mean well.

Each loss is different, we all need to find our own way through the maze of emotions that we are faced with.

Gentle hugs

thx guys and yes mom visits me alot in my dreams

I too am not consoled with that "they are with you" comment. Ppl mean well. I think it's just that ppl don't know what to say. They know we are in pain and want to maybe reduce it.
When I was a kid my dad died. I was told he would always be in my heart. huh? I was a kid. I took that literally of course. How could daddy be in my heart.?
It will be three years in Feb that I lost my very best friend. We were like sisters. She died unexpectedly. I am finally able to say that I think I am more healed than hurt. Now I can appreciate that she is with me. I talk to her all the time. However that expression did not console me when I was in so much pain from loosing her.

I too don't care for "she will always be with you". I know I probably said some of the same dumb things to people, but mostly I would just say I was sorry and leave it at that because I didn't know what else to say and I think that is a good rule of thumb. Let the silence speak, just be there for the person and let them talk if they want.

I have dreamed about my sister but it's not any good dreams, mostly dreams about the circumstances being positive as in she is in the hospital getting better rather than what actually happened. Thinking about "good times" means nothing because I always had those good time memories. We want future memories. For me, thinking about past memories brings more anguish than good.

I am beyond devastated. I still can't believe it's real. I can not believe this is truly happening. I feel like it's a nightmare I can't wake up from. I don't feel like I'm a real person sometimes. This is just not happening.

When we lose a loved one, there isn't really anything that anyone can say to make us feel better. When I lost my daddy six months ago, everyone said, "he's in a better place". I thought that was a load of crap, because my dad loved me so much, I knew there was no place he'd rather be than right here with me. As time passed, people have stopped trying to console me, it takes time I guess.
As for the dreams, I too have had a lot of dreams about my dad. I've found that dreams about a lost loved one tend to represent the feelings, thoughts, concerns, etc. we have about their passing. In most of my dreams, I'm in a dangerous situation. My dad is around but he's somehow unable to help me. My interpretation is that it represents my concern about my dad not being able to protect me any more.

I know you're hurting. When you can get UNDER, BENEATH that pain, you'll feel that she IS there. Visitations in dreams sure helped me.