Dear Shore T51

I am very sorry for your loss. It is really difficult to lose somebody at such a young age - and the world seems to start moving on so quickly. All I can tell you is that you can get through it with the support an care of your family and friends. If not with support here. I remember my experience of burying my partner barely - it was just so surreal and I think I'm glad I don't really remember. Love and care

Emma

Shore, I feel you. On Friday it will be 4 months since I buried my wife. The ironic thing is that on that particular day there is a American Cancer Society "Relay for Life", and her friends and I have made a team for her and raised over $8200 for cancer research in her name.

A few points of view: I can promise you that things will never be "okay". It's not "okay" that our loved one was taken from us. It will always be different. We have to keep that in mind. While they will not be "okay", they will be "better". Once we have been through one of the hardest things in a lifetime, there is not too many worse things to go through. The small things should stop bothering you so much. There is no instruction manual for all of these emotions people like us have. Don't think what you are feeling is wrong or not the "right" way to feel. You and I and folks like us are writing our own books right now.

What has happened to us is like a cut. Time cannot heal it, but it can make a scar. You always know a scar is there, but as it heals, the pain slowly ebbs away. It may not go away altogether, but it will subside. When you feel like you are losing your faith, look at the love you do have in your life; family, friends, pets (if you have them). Focus on the good in your life and not on the crappy hand we've been dealt.

I hope my ramblings help you somewhat. You have my prayers and support, as I know where you are. Take care and God bless...

I am so sorry for your recent loss. I have been still dealing with the pain of my Daughters passing, it will be 2 years in July. It never goes away, but we learn a bit better how to deal with it I guess. It is rather difficult to explain. But I speak with Stephanie daily and so do her three daughters.
God bless and I will pray for encouragement for you. Debbie

Oh, Baby Girl,(I have grand son 21, you are a Baby Girl to me. It is a term of endearment where I am from.)you are so right life is not fair, and it very often just plain sucks. I am so very sorry for your loss. This should be a time of great joy for you and it is just grief and unbelievable pain. I came to DS for a diffrent kind of loss than you. I lost both of my adult sons and my adult stepdaughter. I have not ever lost the love of my life. It is a diffrent grief, but grief is grief and it is so paainful, and confusing and there is notjing anyone can do to make it better. I am so sorry you have to face this awfyl death so unexpectedly and at such a young age. Grief is hard at any age, but to see a younf person one day, and the next they are just gone for ever, is an awful thing to have to live with. I do not have any of the answers, I never found them either. I don't think any of us ever really come to understand, but as time passes the wound does becaome more bareable. Nonw of the words people say to you make sense or help. Sometimes, they rven hurt worse or make you angry. Hon that is something we all go through no matter who we lost. Your grief is still very new and raw. Your heart is shattered, and this is the beginning of a long long road. There will be many diffrent feeling, and phases you will go through. I can just say from my experience, give yourself time, and do not expect too much from yourself. Everyone grieves diffrent and there is no time limits, or any guide lines. You do it your way and you do it in your time. You will find people here who share all kinds of things. People with all kinds of problems. We are all here because of some kind of hurt or need for support. You will find so many good and kind people here. They care and listen, they understand, and they are all so good. I feel like my family here on DS (I have begun to call us heart kin, heart family, heart sisters.) understands my grief and pain better than most of my blood kin and better than all my friends. You may feel do hurt and helpless now. Maybe even hopeless. There is hope in the world and there is love. You can find it here. You cannot comprehend it yet, but you someday can put some of the pieces of your heart back together. You can someday begin to live again. Not the same life, but a diffrent life. You can find help and understanding here, Compassion from people that all have hurt too. Prayers and love,Peggy

iam so sorry sweetie,Its what we do with our time not how long we have,prayers for you