Hello. My children didnt speak to or visit with their grandmother for years before she died. She was suffering from cancer and dementia prior to death. Fortunately, a few were able to view her frail body before burial. But one did not. Some have visited her resting place since the interment, but I notice that they are not interested in walking up to the grave site; they stay in the car. I do not question it, because it does not seem to bother them.

It was a useful idea to get counsel at her school and especially with a wonderful counselor skilled with experience. I hope your daughter is progressing well. If at this time you still need further ideas, keep us posted. God bless!

Thanks for your post. I was able to find her a grief counselor outside of school who she has seen for 3 weeks now (once a week). Two weeks ago she also got a tattoo of a heart and angel wings with her grannys name and date she died. She says it is helping alot. I will keep you posted.

Oh, youre welcome! I am pleased to know that she is receiving grief counseling. And a tattoo of a heart and angel is a beautiful token of love and faith. Granny surely is pleased with that! Oh, Im certain this sweet act of remembrance is working; I have tears in my eyes now. Thanks for keeping me posted. God bless!

Aww don't cry. Thanks so much for your support. Also, her granny's husband has been a total jackass. he announced in front of church 2 weeks after we buried her that God sent him a new woman. Now it would be one thing if this was some new woman noone knew BUT it was someone who has been a thorn in their marriage the whole 45 yrs basically. The granny shot this bastard over this woman yrs ago ... he still has bullet in his leg. So his bullshit is making it so much harder for us to grieve. My daughter is so angry with him. He lives in MS but the lady lives here as well as 2 of his children so he is all of a sudden up here alot which isnt safe for him. I think im going to have my daughter write him a letter cuz if she talks to him face to face Im going to catch a case from kicking his ass cuz i know he will say something ignorant to her. So even if he doesnt read all of the letter at least she can get all her feelings out. What do you think about that? I really want to kick his ass but that won't solve anything.

Oh Why, you are welcome! Oh horror! What is Gramps thinking??!! Come on!! The nerve!! He has to be approaching senility. No wonder about why the bullet is in the leg!!! And its a good thing he didnt get it with a bazooka! Poor guy. Let's hope this new lady won't plug the other leg! Oh my goodness!

Please, have your precious daughter write out a letter to this one. I agree with you; the matter can get ugly in person. Good idea, Why. And Why, under the circumstances, there is absolutely nothing wrong for you wanting to kick him in the buns; its a natural human reaction to grief and disappointment. He is really asking for a chastening; God is watching him.

Alystra, one of his daughters says the same thing. He has to be crazy. And he just expects us to accept it. Kay's father is his step-son and the oldest of Carrie's children but the jackass is the father to two girls and one son. Everyone is grown and there are 8 grandkids. I've never liked him because he was always a chavunistic (sp?) pig but i dealt with him because i had too but k never really saw him as her granddad (she told me this last night when we were talking about her writing the letter). And her cousin who is 17 and IDOLIZED this man told her that he wishes he was as brave as her in saying how she feels. And that that man is still his papa. Damn that Alystra. Me and K deal off something totally different. We have a rule ... if you don't treat us nice and wish us well we don't deal with you ... we don't care who you are. It is not that we expect people to always agree with us but it is a simple respect thing and plus k and I both have serious medical issues and can not have stress in our lives so we remove as much of it as we can immediately and don't deal with what we don't have to.

I'm sorry for talking your ear off. Thanks for listening. I hope things are well with you!

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You are so welcome, my dear friend. Call on me anytime! I am counting you and K as my blessings. :)