Bereavement - Teens Support Group
This community is focused on teens who have lost someone close to them. Grief is a multi-faceted response to loss, and while most people focus on the emotional response to loss, it can affect us behaviorally, physically, and even spiritually. This is a safe place to talk about how you're feeling and coping with grief, and to share experiences that have helped you through.
I lost my grandad when I was 12. Its been nearly 6 years and i still can't cope well with it. He had cancer and the moment I found out that he had a brain tumour I just broke down. Being that age was difficult enough, what with going through puberty and everything but this just made it hell. I only saw him once when he was in hospital and it was the last time I saw him alive and I just keep remembering that moment. When he finally died, it was more of a relief than anything. He'd been suffering in hospital for months and it must have been a huge relief for him to finally be peaceful. I'm just still completely broken about it. I didn't go to his funeral and I've been wishing ever since that I had. I didn't say goodbye to him and its become a burden for me. I miss him sooooo much and I'm at the point in my life that I really want him to be here, he's going to miss so much and I'm devastated about it. Does anyone have any advice on how I can cope and what I can do to make myself feel better? I'm having a tough time and I need guidance from people whi know what I'm going through :(
I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad two years ago and it's been really hard. I didn't get to say goodbye either and it kills me all the time. There are so many things I wish I had said and done, so many things I would have done differently. It's so hard.
What really helps me is talking to people who knew my dad and talking about him. I love talking about the good memories I had with him and all of the good times. I also love watching videos of him and looking at pictures. Talking to him helps too, and writing in a journal. Hopefully these things will help!
If you ever want to talk. I'm here,
-Julia
I'm really sorry for your loss, don't feel bad or regret it that you didn't go to the funeral. You were young and probably didn't understand properly what was happening. He is in peace now and resting watching you.. He would be proud that you've grown up remembering the good times with him.
I'm always here if you ever need to talk x