Bereavement - Teens Support Group
This community is focused on teens who have lost someone close to them. Grief is a multi-faceted response to loss, and while most people focus on the emotional response to loss, it can affect us behaviorally, physically, and even spiritually. This is a safe place to talk about how you're feeling and coping with grief, and to share experiences that have helped you through.
I cant stop thinking about him. Every time i do i just get angry and want to cry.
I was 13 when he died (now 16) but we'd fallen out and i'd not seen him in 8 months. I didn't go to his funeral either.
He wasn't a good man in all honesty, he was a nasty manipulative liar. He did what suited him when it suited him. I only saw him in little bouts every 2/3 year. His family all fell out with him and hadn't spoken to him in years either. But because he was my dad i loved him. I only ever wanted to be accepted and loved by him.
It hurts like hell now, i want him back so i can shout and scream at him. punch him. Then hug him. Tell him i miss him and make up.
What can i do to move on?
I can't talk to anyone about this, i feel it's a private matter. It's really tearing me apart.
I was 13 when he died (now 16) but we'd fallen out and i'd not seen him in 8 months. I didn't go to his funeral either.
He wasn't a good man in all honesty, he was a nasty manipulative liar. He did what suited him when it suited him. I only saw him in little bouts every 2/3 year. His family all fell out with him and hadn't spoken to him in years either. But because he was my dad i loved him. I only ever wanted to be accepted and loved by him.
It hurts like hell now, i want him back so i can shout and scream at him. punch him. Then hug him. Tell him i miss him and make up.
What can i do to move on?
I can't talk to anyone about this, i feel it's a private matter. It's really tearing me apart.
Write a personal letter to your dad saying anything and everything you wanted to say to him, then burn that letter. Or if you don't have access to a fire, throw it off a bridge somewhere so it sinks into the water.
I'm also trying to move on, and it's very difficult sometimes. All my friends it's awkward to talk about death, so I can't talk to them about it. I think writing to him would help, to get your feelings out. Talking to someone might help, but that's so hard to do. I have serious trouble talking to adults about stuff like this.
I don't think the pain will ever really all go away but I think i can learn to live with it. I'm trying to forgive him and forgive myself so I can cherish the good memories i had with him and forget the bad.
I hoped that helped. It's hard to deal with stuff like this, but it makes you a stronger person in the end.
I feel the exact same way, I keep asking myself why did you do this to me, even though I know better I can't help it. But then I think about how everything happens for a reason. My reason is my son who turned 1 today, if my dad hadn't passed away I wouldn't have my son, and that little boy is my entire world. It's so hard to think positively when your hurting so bad but I know my dad is better off now, if it hadn't happened the way it did it could have been so much worse, and caused so much more pain.