If you are still doing this, I would love a mentor. Thank you.

Yes, that would be wonderful. I am very much alone and online contacts keep me moving.

I didn't know if this was still an available option. I just lost my husband of 31 years and soulmate on 11/1 (8 years after my mother). I am really trying to work forward but truly having a more difficult time than I thought. He had been terminally ill for some time and we were working on this possibility of this happening. Honestly, he had been getting better and the doctors were starting to see him being able to stop taking some of his medications. The news to the doctors had them calling me to ask what happened, as they didn't expect this any more than the rest of us. I am finding that I am much lonelier than we thought the other would be. I truly am lost, I wish I had an answer to why now. I can use all the help one is willing to give at this time, trying to work through this type of loss is so much different than when we lost our daughter 24 years ago (hmm feels like yesterday sometimes).

I would like a mentor. Thanks

I would love a mentor. I'm not sure if this is still an option.

Yes, a mentor or somebody who has experienced something similar would really be if help. Thank you very much.

I watched my mother die last Monday. I need help

I would like a Mentor please. This is My First Christmas without My Grandpa he passed away April 15th 2017 but it still feels like yesterday. My Grandpa helped My Mother raise Me. I am having such a hard time this being my first Christmas with out him here physically but I know He is Her Spiritually I can Feel him and See The Signs He sends. I am 36 1/2 years old I never knew who my father was So My Grandpa was Always More like a Dad to Me. The last 6 years of his life My Husband and I took care of him helping My Grandma ( who was married to him for 65 years and is still with us today) He suffered a Brain stem stroke at the age of 90 then got vascular dementia. Grandpa was 96 years old When he passed away. I was there in the hospital room with him when he took his last breath. He said my name in a whisper just before he passed. I am having such a hard time with this. Thank You.

Yes I would like a mentor, someone to talk with and ask for advice. When you lose a parent/spouse/sibling, the grief is terrible (I'm in no way minimizing the pain of someone who has experienced such a loss - I too have lost parents, friends, partners) - but such tragedies do seem to begin to heal over time. But there is something unique about losing a child - in a puzzling and incongruous way, the pain from the loss of your child tends to get progressively worse as time passes, it doesn't even begin to heal, it just gets worse. It is strange that when the worst thing that can happen to a person, losing your child, DOES happen, it just becomes more painful and impossible to deal with as each day, month, year goes by, while losing another loved one other than a child tends to follow the adage, "time heals all wounds', or at least softens them to a degree. I don't understand why with each passing day the pain becomes more intolerable, and more evident that it is never going to get any easier. I am hesitant to talk about this because I never have before - I was unsure which "group" to join, and the situation is so personal and painful that it requires a lot of courage to open up about to anyone, especially someone anonymous. It is coming up on the 16th anniversary of my daughter's death - it will be August 15. She was 18 when she passed away in 2002. She was my only child, the center of my life, and really my only family (with the exception of an emotionally disconnected older brother who tried to say the "right" things at the time, but whose compassion rapidly faded and turned to (for want of a better word), annoyance at my inability to "recover". His self-involvement rules his life. I have been on my own since it happened, more and more isolated and alone and unsure of what to do next. One thing I have concluded over the years, the reason behind why it just keeps getting worse, is that your children are not "just" your children, they are not just "from" you, or "of" you - they ARE you. They are literally your heart and soul, and when you lose your child, it is exactly like having your soul ripped out of you. You are no longer "you" - you are a shell of what you once were, yourself minus your soul. I really need to talk with someone about this, I hope there is someone out there who can give me some perspective and/or understanding and maybe help me decide what to do next. If I asked someone without personal knowledge of this, they would be astounded that my grief continues to worsen after 16 years - I'm sure their reaction would be something to the effect of "isn't it time you begin to get over this" or something. They wouldn't understand that with losing a child, there is never a "getting over it", there is never such a thing as "closure". That would be my brother's reaction, as an example. Please, if anyone can take the time to talk to me and provide some support/mentoring, any ideas on what I can do, I would be so grateful. Thank you in advance.