Yes, divorce is really awful. Welcome to the group. I hope you will find yourself on the mend soon.

Thanks a lot! It just feels like it's getting worse as I watch my ex moving on while I'm still devastated.

Everyone grieves in their own way and time. It will get better.

I am in the same situation as my wife wants this and I don't. I am desperately looking for help too and its out there with Divorce Care, therapists, meds, this site. Take care of yourself and pray too. HUGS

I agree with the posters before me. Time, friends, therapy, mindfulness, etc... are all things that help. You will have ups and downs, good and bad days. Overtime the bad days will lesson and the good days grow, but be gentle and patient with yourself, the process takes different time frame for everyone.

Divorce should hurt because the relationship, or at least the love you felt, was meaningful and important to you. I remember going through my divorce and a friend equating it to death and mourning, and they were right. I hate to admit this because it is bittersweet, but some of the best sleep I ever had was after I was so emotionally drained at the end of the day; trying to hold onto a million intangible questions, possibilities and endless self conversations.
My advice is not to deny yourself the time to grieve. But once you have gather strength from others around you. You had written that you "did everything to try to change to who he wanted me to be." There is nothing wrong with who you are and, objectively speaking, your partner should be uplifting you and seeking you, or they are not meant to be your partner. My heart goes out to you, it truly does. But it will be alright. You will take stock of what you are willing to compromise and what will remain rigid for when you do me the right person. I was married for 18 years, have 4 children, and my divorced wrecked me. I thought I had done everything right: active dad, cleaner of houses, folder of laundry....but I was wrong. It taught me several harsh, but valuable lessons. So when I met my partner again, I knew what I wanted and what I was not willing to compromise.
Take time to grieve. But reflect and pull some wisdom out of it. All the best, Hunting, you are going to be okay, I promise.

Divorce should never happen. You are absolutely right. It hurts because you were committed, because you understood that marriage sometimes needs a little work. IT hurts because you gave everything and because this other person felt entitled to have other options. I'm really sorry for you. I cant tell you that it will go away, but I can tell you that it gets better little by little and that with time, that love transforms into strength and you start seeing things more clearly. People should not stay with us because we convince them, they should stay with us because they value us, because they know who we are. If they are able to risk that, hell with them. Let him start his new life. You do the same. believe me better alone that with a person that makes you lose your dignity.
Do not allow him to see you broken do not allow him to disrespect you anymore. I know I’m not supposed to tell people what to do but I wish someone had told me sooner that no matter what I do, the decision comes from me. I did not listen and then now I am dealing with tremendous debt. Never thought a person could do something like that but I guess once love is done they feel more entitle to step over you. Sage your self, do no let this guy make you feel less. Making you feel like that enlarges his EGO. In his head, if youa re all that he is saying then he is right to leave you. Do not give him that, raise your dignity high and get revenge in the best way possible – BE HAPPY

Thank you so much! I just found these recent comments today and the message that I obviously wrote a year ago but could have written today. The difference is that I read your comments and I am starting to think that I may make it this time! I'm praying that I finally know that I don't deserve this pain and he didn't deserve the happiness that he took from me. I tried to remain friends because he was all that I had and I loved him but it just led to me being hurt over and over again when his words weren't the loving words I wanted to hear despite how hard I tried to be lovable. He now has another girlfriend and it absolutely broke my soul again because I still believed we had some good things between us that could be fixed if he'd put in the effort. I am really broken but there is that place deep inside that knows that I am a beautiful person inside and out and it is his loss not to appreciate what he had. I am no less of a person for it but he's a quitter on another relationship. I know that I did all that I could to be there for him so I can be proud. Thank you again for your words!! I will need to keep reading them in healing.