Hi,
I am from India after one year of love affair got married with same? women from past 11 years .we have seven years old son who is getting raised in almost a hell kind of environment .
My wife is an alcoholic .She used to drink before marriage and i knew about this fact when i first met her i was two years clean(NA meetings).Although i should have stopped at first place as par the program and meetings but i got so Obsessed that didn't think about any consequences.I used my mind and thought that i will stand by her and support her she would not drink.I was wrong did exactly the opposite which was suggested to me.but you know guys this love feelings and that too with the recovering drug addict or an alcoholic takes you some where where you don't want to go.To cut the long story short i have started putting with her along with my parents after marriage it was a inter caste marriage had few problems but than convinced everyone The first 2 years of life brought so much of ups and downs fights than love, again fights and than again love but things were not improving .Whenever she got disturbed i was the one who after her emotional melodrama provided her with the promise that its the last time but than it kept going and its worst now .After three years we got blessed with a son and thought things will might change as far as the relationship is concerned but in these all three years we never felt the need to move out or of a divorce occasionally yes but that too was momentarily or out of anger stayed for a short while and used to vanished with love and hugs.Than came the shock of the life when one day my wife disclosed that she is going around with another man and wants a divorce .It almost killed me couldn't believe at first place thought she must be kidding but she was not .She convinced me file a divorce and i had no other choice except doing that but than she needed my signature and i wanted my son and she got ready to leave 1 year old son with me .Believe you me guys my mother was on dialysis at that time my father was the one who was doing everything and we were so busy in her treatment and she didn't even care and left us with the innocent kid . i got so many thoughts of using but than somehow my higher power saved me Her family was party to the whole plan.but in India if one files a mutual consent divorce court gives six months time to reconcile .so now the six months time .I begged in front of her did possibly everything which could make change her decision but all in vain .Than finally came out of it and started becoming bit comfortable .started devoting my life to my son's upbringing
After 5 months she came back on my son's annual function and started crying and asked me that will i be able to take her back if she would want to come .I could say no or yes where as it had to be no at first place but being a emotional fool started thinking on the lines that she need me and my shoulder and i will as she was my first love and i said yes she came back and things started moving again she came back physically but not mentally in fact she was kicked by that man. she started drinking heavily with in no time and again that miserable hell started happening.She is a lawyer by profession but earns nothing she started going to the courts and there came the another man .one day i caught her messages and confronted her in front of that man and they denied deep down i know that they are making my fool.My wife started asking for forgiveness and i again got melted after few days
The worst is still to come she started drinking everyday and the scenes were unbearable everyday fights abusive languages even physical hitting ..now the other fact which came upfront that she was taking antidepressant pills that too in heavy quantity finally i dropped her to her home town with her parents after filing a divorce i told them to keep her there and do some treatment but she is women beyond help she again came back to my place and started accepting each and every condition which i conveyed to her to follow if she wants to come back.again foolish of me i trusted her the scenario i more worst she drinks everyday nor ready to leave my place and today i again caught her voice message with the man which was full of shit.i finally in the evening left the place with my son because she was not ready to go out .i want to run away don't want to see her face decided to run away from this town change my numbers everything.i sell on line so my business aspect and income won't suffer much for very long . PLEASE ADVICE WHAT DO I DO MY ONLY DESIRE IS TO STAY AWAY OTHERWISE WE WILL DIE