I don't consider that discipline I consider it abuse personally..... I probably wouldn't go back Lory it would be disturbing for sure...

I would call child protective services and lodge a complaint... This child must be terrified to go to bed every night and that would be a terrible way to live.... A frightening way and also a shameful way to live

If nothing else they can at least educate the parents.... I see this as cruel and there should be some intervention on the child's behalf IMHO..... Big hug.... I'm sorry that this has hurt you as well.....xo

No one should be punished for something he/she can’t control.

That's not a justifiable reason for punishing someone. Punishment can be justified for misbehaviour, although not physical punishment. But it can never be justified for accidents.

When his parents got back home and asked how everything went I told them fine other than him crying as I was putting him to bed. I told them I felt really bad for him and that it’s totally out of his control and that me and my brother still wet the bed. I could tell the dad was extremely embarrassed. If they call me back to babysit again I will probably say no.

You were really brave to tell the parents you do it too. Maybe they will rethink but I think you are right to not go back if they ask you unless they tell you they have changed their behaviour.

I think that you're extremely brave to speak up …. What you did for this little child is really awesome..... big hug.....xo

Thanks. I was pretty scared but I really felt bad for him. He is the sweetest little boy ever. That’s why I really want to babysit him more but not if I have to see those big on tears coming down those sweet little cheeks. They were pretty surprised that I still wet the bed. I didn’t tell them my mom still diapers me at night. That would be too embarrassing.

Update, the mom called me and asked if I would sit for them. I said I couldn’t. She asked why, and I said because I didn’t want to have to hear him crying for something he had no control over. She said she was very sorry and that her husband no longer spanks him for that and thanked me for speaking up. She asked if I would mind to please give them another chance that her son really wants me to babysit him again. So I’m going over there this evening. I’m happy I get to sit for him again.

You did a great job! Thank you for him and congrats.

I have just joined this support group tonight (currently 1.30 am where I am).
I am 38 years old, born in Africa and have been in England since I was 8. I did not have the most conventional home environment as i grew up with my sister from the age of 11. She was 20. Just trying to give some context to my situation. I have been wetting the bed all my life. It doesn't happen every night, but it does occur frequently.
When i first started living with my sis, she beat me so bad one day after I had an accident, I already had a certain amount of fear and anxiety when going to bed, but the fear of physical repercussions has really messed up my sleep at night, even up to now. Obviously the beatings stopped a long time ago but I have carried the fear of bed wetting ever since. I would try to hide it whenever I had an accident and I've so much anxiety about sleeping, it can take me hours to drift off to sleep. This has had a very negative impact on me getting into relationships. I Love women, but I have so much fear and anxiety because the beatings made me feel like there something so wrong with me, how could any woman put up with it?
I found out a few months ago that I actually have Overactive Bladder, which is what has been causing the bed wetting. How I wish someone like you had entered my life at such a vulnerable age. From that one night of babysitting you made such a positive impact on that boy's life, this will be a real life changer (for the better). You're an angel. Literally. Keep doing what you do, you may have saved someone from years of negative feelings about themselves.

Hi :-) that's awesome that you made a difference in this little man's life. When I started bedwetting at 12 my mum started to smack me in the mornings... but we went to the GP soon after it all started and he educated her that it wasn't helpful, then it stopped (she said sorry). I do think she was genually trying to help - just misguided.

My mom didn't care to find out why I had problems controlling my bladder. I would wake up to my mom dragging me to the bathroom telling me to get the stink off. She once dislocated my shoulder, and eve broke my ankle beating it on the hearth of the fireplace because I had a rather large wet spot on my pants from leaking on myself. She never took me to see a doctor about it, she just thought I was lazy and needed to shame me all the time. She even left me at the mall and had to walk home because I didn't make it to the bathroom. I grew up being picked on by kids too, my nick name was pissyboy, even in high school I had this problem, all though not as bad. I seem to have grown out of it when I was in my 20's, or so I thought I did have some accidents in my adult life, but it started becoming a problem again when I hit 30. I again started wetting the bed and then my pants more and more. When it got in the way of me being in the ARNG I went to seek help. I had a urodynamic done, they found my bladder never grew to an adult size, and that I never had good nerve function. They claimed if my mom had taken me in to see a doctor when I was a child they might have been able to help me, instead I have had to wear diapers, and its been a part of my life for years, Im 58 now and I have forgotten what it's like to have most function of my bladder. At this point in my life I really don't care anymore. I am beyond shame and don't care what people think. if they have a problem then they do not me, they just need to deal with it.

Oh no, I’m so sorry you had to go thru all that. This is just awful. Do you still talk to your mom? Do you have brothers and sisters? Did they wet and abused? Just so sad. I can’t wait for all this virus stuff to be over so I can babysit again. I miss the kids I sit sooo much.

The worst I ever had to consider it punishment was when I was a little older and didn't want to Wear a diaper, is take them off myself without letting anyone know. So to stop me from doing that, my diapers got taped on me with extra boxing tape wrapped around the waist if my diaper so I couldn't undo it or slide it of wriggle out of it. I'd have that done time for a while until I couldtrusted again.
To be spanked for wetting?? That's abuse to me. That's just wrong and hopefully someone stood up for him!!!

I agree with you Cassie, that’s abuse. I received my share of spankings when I was younger but never for wetting my diapers or even my pants.