Bedwetting Support Group

Bedwetting (or nocturnal enuresis or sleepwetting) is involuntary urination while asleep. It is the normal state of affairs in infancy, but can be a source of embarrassment when it persists into school age or the teen or adult years. Find others who are coping with a bedwetting problem and share your experiences and questions.

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northernmother 10/20/2016

Hello, I'm not sure how to approch this but I need advice! About a month and a half ago my oldest child started wetting her bed for the first time since she was potty trained. For the first two weeks it wasnt a huge deal and wasnt every night about the thied week in it became more constaint. The doctors say she has a small bladder but other than that shes healthy and this should pass eventually. Shes small for her age shes closer to 4 year old in size which the doctors agree. Which in the past and as late as monday has led to her having potty accidents. Shes already skidish/ gets fussy when someone mentions her size (especailly when shes mistaken for a 3 or 4 year old which happens more often than we would like) but now with the potty accidents happening a little more often and the constant bedwetting its been harder to keep her happy and positive. My youngest is 2 and shes currently going through potty training so at night weve been having both of them in pullups, which my oldest daughter hates she says it makes her look like a baby. Unfortunetly the pullups leak for her about half the time which isnt good for anyone. I'm at a loss, I cant keep dealing with a 6 year old throwing tantrums like shes 2 because of having to wear pullups then they leak causing more of an issue. My ex husband told me we should get her diapers for at night but I'm not sure, but I gotta do something soon her mattress is ruined, so right now til I get a new one this weekend I have there old crib converted into a toddler bed for her which she hates but its got a protected matress so for the next few days it'll work. Ugh I'm such a mess, Please dont think I'm a horrible mother I love my kids and I'm trying my best. I'm more than welcome to any advice!

Mikezx1214 10/20/2016

Sorry to hear your daughter is having problems. Your not a horrible mom bed wetting can be overwhelming for parents and the kids that are dealing with it. Since she has just started wetting has there been any changes that have happened that could be stressing her out or has she mentioned that she is getting bullied at school? It can be difficult for her to understand or accept that she needs to wear a diaper now but maybe talking it over with her will help make things easier. First of all she needs to know that in no way is her bed wetting her fault it is a medical condition that is out of her control and it can be very difficult to overcome this problem. Talking with her about how wearing the diaper will make sure she gets a good nights sleep may help her understand that for now its best she wears them and let her know there are a lot of kids much older than her that have the same problem and have to wear diapers. For her new bed buy a good mattress cover for bed wetting to protect the mattress and get diapers that are better suited for heavier night time wetting the off the shelve diapers often are poor quality buying online from suppliers like amazon would be worth checking into the customer reviews will give you a good idea which brands work better. You and her together could also look at different posts from kids with bed wetting problems just to help her understand that she is not the only one that has this problem and the more she hears that it is not her fault the better. With two kids in diapers it must be very tough and with your oldest not wanting to wear them and acting up when she has to put one one it is stressful for you both. If she can be helped to understand that for now its for the best it will hopefully put her mind at ease there are many teenagers that have to wear diapers to bed like she does and have the same problem with bed wetting your next doctor visit you could ask the doctor to reassure that there is nothing wrong with wearing a diaper when you have a medical condition like she does. Hope things improve for her soon.

mamasrus 10/21/2016

Good Evening,

Having a daughter who dealt with a very similar problem, I understand your frustration. As a parent, sometimes we have to upset our children, even if it upsets them. With my daughter (now almost 9), we had to deal with the crying, temper tantrums and more before we eventually bought her diapers (due to her size, my sons diapers still fit her). At first, she was upset, but after a few weeks of full nights sleep and no wet beds, she got better. Although we've dealt with issues since, it is mostly non-existant now, so it is just a memory.

As for the mattress, I would hold off getting anything until you've decided on protection that works. I can assure you, she probably isn't the only kid in her class dealing with this.

Feel free to pm if you want to talk more.

momplus 10/27/2016

Went through this some time ago. We found nighttime protection was the best thing. It allowed for a full nights sleep in comfort which at those ages is of importance and there was a study done that showed this to be true.

PM me if you'd like to talk more.

smiller8008 10/28/2016

My daughter just turned 10 and still wets the bed. We went back to diapers at night instead of pull-ups when she was almost 7 because the pull-ups were leaking. It was a bit tough, but I'm glad we did it.

Does she like it when she wakes up in a dry bed? We used that to help sell diapers to our daughter - maybe a similar approach would work.

archiepike 12/20/2016

A lot of people have bed wetting problems. I'm 13 and still have to wear diapers to bed. It is really the best thing to do.

Anisha 02/11/2017

Hi Mam, please feel free to look up my journals. There you can see what my sister (15) and I (21) wear day and night. These All-In-One might be a good alternative as they are thick and thirsty and you can add soaker pads as she needs. The pink one is custom made and can be made to your kids sizes too. Maybe you can think about and let me know either by responding to my journal or by message. Hope that helped.
Anisha

amyd045 04/22/2017

I don't know if you're still checking this site but I just joined and also have a 6 year old daughter who wets the bed. We've had problems with pull-ups too but she's never really been out of diapers at night other than a few experiments with pull-ups so she's fine wearing them (thankfully).

Have things gotten any better?

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