Back Pain Support Group
Back pain is one of the most common reasons people seek medical care. In fact, about 3 in 4 adults will experience back pain during their lifetime! The term back pain includes pain affecting the neck, midback and low back. Acute back pain may begin suddenly with intense pain but typically lasts fewer than three months. Usually, chronic back pain is persistent, steady, and...
My boyfriend has a back pain and he irritate at me with every aspect. I am a nanny with a tiny and only income that support us for a year. I am a very easy going and open mind person and he is so negative and never appreciate anything. In the US you have the right to pursue life, speech and happiness, this is never be in my book with him. I have accent that he has no patient he said he love me so much and he doesn't know when and why he hurt me. He blame on the back pain. we also have another business that taking off. I can see huge future of the business but not us anymore. I havn't got a chance to go back to see my family in Asia over than 3 years and I stay patient because I hope our business will pay off but since he just call me a bit** and a wh** at the gas station when we arguing and beleive me I did nothing wrong. That's new for me and it is the first time I ever heard someone I'm with call me like that. It's a toxic and I know I deserve to be treated better. I can't take it anymore. I want to throw the business opportunity away in order to just have a freedom but I don't want to be a nanny forever and I've been working hard on our business too. I want to hear from you guys if you all have problem with irritable so much and what you want from other to make you feel better. Thanks, Ann
Well, as a person with real bad back issues and 5 spinal surgeries, and lots of pain, I sometimes get very irritable and I have days that I don't want to come out of bed and just want to be left alone, but I have NEVER, EVER treated my love ones in a nasty way!
There is NO reason for him to treat you the way he is! Calling someone names and been mean to someone has nothing to do with the back pain, and has everything to do with him been a jerk!
Yes, I said it, he's been a jerk!!!!! You do not deserve to be talked that way, it doesn''t matter if he is in pain or not, you are a valuable human being and as such you should be treated. Is he seeing a Doctor for his back pain? Is he talking medications for his pain? He needs to stop treating you like crap and then blaming his back pain for it, that is not right! If he keeps on been a jerk to you, you will be better off living him and going on your own. No ones deserves the way he treats you, you will be happier and better on your own!
If he can not see the good in you, is time to leave his ass and find your happiness! Good luck to you...
Tipper
I hope things work out well for you.
Sherry
Yes, dealing with constant pain is exhausting and I do get short tempered, but your family and loved ones should be the absolute last people to take out your frustrations on.
When he is not mad, tell him you won't tolerate that treatment any longer and advise him of your plans if he continues. Then follow through! Unfortunately, guys that do this type of thing do not usually change. I'd be looking ahead and planning a new future.
By the way, I am from Asia too, I know what you mean by having an accent. Protect yourself. Good luck.
He is also struggle with his behavior but no physical aggressive toward anybody, just rudeness to people that knew him most especial woman, me and his ex wife. He is cool with all his friends. He keep saying I know you are not happy I will try to be better...
We went on a trip last week with his mom, she is cold, square person she sees thing negative and complain all the time. He saw his mirror and said he doesn't want to be like her, He will try to change. I said to him do it for yourself you don't want to get old like that, right now you just 34 but you are mix between a young kid that want to get anything your way and grumpy like an unhappy old man.
When I first with him he wasn't like this, it end up he is exactly like my dad, irritable personality but my dad had brain damage 15 day after I was born so I was dealing with him until I was 16 before I moved out . I forgave him and always love and have him in my heart, he died a few year ago. That's why I thought he might have brain damage from his nerve pain. He has a huge problem with communication. He doe's not speak what he want and get frudstaded inside and act irritable out. The positive thing he has for me is he doesn't mind that I have herpes and he doesn't, he never once talk about it. He excepts my problem.
I know if he can't get help for the better I'm not going to try to fix his problem anymore because I see my mom in me right now. She is the most patient woman I ever seen to dealing with my dad and I am nowhere close to her. The perspective of my life is live positively, give and encuragement to others, any problem could be sloved, anything is possible. I will find peace I know I deserve some day. Thanks again