I kicked my 13 y/o out (he is a state away with his grandfather) because his behaviors with his younger brothers was too unacceptable.

I wish I could go back and just not have had more children until later, gotten him more help, married differently, something. I can't go back and change things. That is how I dealt. There are somethings I just could not live with.

It isn't an easy path we are on. If you havent already, find a professional who deals expertly w/ autism and seek their advise often until you find how to make things work. It is what I wasn't able to do. I wish I had.

Do you have access to a behavior speicalist, she would be able to help you with ideas and treatments to help your son,, If you can call your local Community Mental Health Agency and ask...

hugs

hi, how old is you son? and when was he diag ? when did his behavior statrt? what type of sutism does he have is he verbal non verbal??? what does the ped say about this??? i just trying to find out and try to help.

have a son that 17 now but back then when he was less then 6 he was first diag as adhd but then latter after i had him seek psch and pshiatry and then they said he had pdd which is pervasive develo disoder it part of autism... and then later he was having mood disoreder and behavior ended up in the hsopital and then added bipolar on his list and so we been delaing on and off with him and his sibling and meds so i do feel for you hun, i been there and still at it.

they times my other son help me hold him down when he start hitting me and taking thngs throwing them unitl he calms down. so i be praying for you... if you need to talk i here... take care god bless ya ang

Hey hun....its time for a behaviorist..and maybe an eval for some med's......I know its not easy...but its time to start looking into these options......I know how hurt ya are....yet I also know ya well enough that ya absolutely adore him......so....please send me a pm and let me help ya hun. ..love ya! years!

Just answering some of your questions..... My son is 7 years old he was Diagnosed in 2003. Extremely verbal.....high end of the spectrum. Most of his issues are behavioral and sensory.
He is PDD-NOS and ADHD. He is on meds...Resperidal but it's an extremely small dose about half a teaspoon daily. There are no Behavioral specialists in my area. My husband is in the Air Force , so voluntary relocation is not an option. We are stuck here till 2011.

I'm here with my son 24/7, I get no help and have no family nearby. My so called "friends" never even offer to babysit and act as if my son has the plague, when I offer play dates so he can interact with other children , I'm ignored because their kids don't want to play with him in the first place. I hardly get any type of adult interaction. I'm just really overwhelmed. I love my son dearly but I feel my relationship with him becoming more and more strained. Thanks everyone for the support. I'm so thankful I found DS.

well my advice to you is to go back to the doctor that prescribed the risperdone and talk to him about it. we have been back once since he started the risperdone and we have a follow up next week. it may be the medicine may need to be adjusted. i would also suggest doing social stories regarding this which you can find on the internet too about siblings and how to treat other people. what is wrong and what is right etc. i'm here for you hun.

Hi my son is also 7 dx in 03 as well.We have a very good dr who put him on resperidone and methylphenidate for the ADHD. doses get upped as needed. This isn't perfect but so much better. Now he is having seizures so bad we almost lost him in mid July so added depokote 1725mg per day. His moods are alot better but still has to be the center of my attention. We also have no family or real support so it's hard. Just take it 1 day at a time

Let's remember these are KIDS first and Children with Autism second..

Most of our kids are a bit immature for their ages, I think this is fairly common. And second, sounds like your son is dealing with jellousy toward their younger sibling. Fairly common as well.

The new sibling depends on mom, as does your older one, But now the younger one gets priority. The younger son is held and fed and changed all by priority. Trips/activities for the household are planned around this new arrival, whereas before everything revolved around the older child..... pretty typical

Rather than completely banning the older from the younger, (under direct supervision) allow the older to have some participation with the younger. "Mommy's helper" "couldn't do it without your help" that sort of thing. Fetching supplies, helping change diapers, helping feed the child etc. And Although it is still very hard try more 1+1 time with the older child.

But above all else, do not allow your eyes away from either child... anything could happen.

I will say that although there was no jellousy on my son's part with his sister (maybe because of the ages at the time), but he was ginormous for his age and he tried things like climbing in the playpen. SO I had to watch closely, If anything he was extra protective....

ok...you are saying that you are unable to think about relocating because of the military situation you are in......there are ways to get relocated...
do some research and finda an area that looks promising...good childrens hospitals,therapys available...stuff you need for your child ...and go talk with the base chaplain and base commander.
tell them you situation,special needs child and no decent medical facilitys avalible to you......medical waivers happen.
bring plenty of documentation.....if you can get the medical help
the behaviors will hopefully improve for you .
good luck to you.

When my autistic son was 4, my daughter was born. I feared for her safety, as well. I couldn't mentally deal with the situation. It was then that I decided at 6 months to send my daughter to daycare and then get a behaviorist to help my son. It did cost us, but it was worth my sanity and helped decrease my fears (at least until my son got older, improved behavior) and my baby was strong enough to fight and defend herself. I hope this helps.

UPDATE : I took my son off his med's and his behavior has actually gotten better! Things have been going pretty well lately. I still have to keep an eye on my boys but it's been easier.