Asperger Syndrome Support Group

Asperger syndrome - also referred to as Asperger's syndrome, Asperger's, Aspergers or just AS - is one of five neurobiological pervasive developmental disorders (PDD), and is characterized by deficiencies in social and communication skills, normal to above normal intelligence, and standard language development.

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Wanting my son to get a job

Jenniferswe
Jenniferswe

He is 19 yrs old and was diagnosed around 5 yrs.  He was an IEP in school.  He did graduate highschool.  I've trying to get him looking for a job which he does online.  I doubt that he has applied for any jobs.  When I try to talk to him about it, he gets angry with me and says I'm nagging him.


I did take him to Goodwill Industries' job connections' office and he signed up with them.  He is still very sluggish about applying for jobs.


As you can see, talking to him doesn't work well.  Maybe it's because I don't know how to talk to him.  I know he has anxieties and is afraid to get out there.


Does anybody know what to say to help get him motivated?

lovelilbeany
lovelilbeany
Where does he get his money from to pay for rent and anything else he wants? If it comes from you limit what u gove him he will soon get a job then.
Community Leaderacuriousfish
acuriousfish
Unfortunately it could be if you limit his money it will simply make the relationship worse. If his anxieties are acute then he would rather suffer at home than go out.

Maybe the startegy would be to try and do something about those anxieties?
sambod
sambod
My son is 19. I was fortunate to get him a summer job where I work for the summer doing maintenance at the school I work for getting it ready for a new school year. Of course summer ended, and we had to find something else. My son also has anxiety but he controls it thru medication as well as meditation and breathing exercises when he has an attack. I also found where I live, the department of vocational rehabilitation . He qualified for services because of the diagnosis of high functioning autism and the anxiety. They provided free classes on how to do a resume, how to conduct him/herself during a interview and based on what he thought he could do/ wanted to do, helped him find a job. They looked for a job, called and told us where and asked if he would be interested and set up a interview. Presto, he got the job . They even provided a job coach and a job shadow for the first couple of weeks to make sure he is ok. the job coach now checks on him once a week with a visit or a phone call to see if there is anything they can help with. . He's been working for almost three months now. Look in your area for the state agency of vocational rehabilitation.
patti22
patti22
You might also call his former school. Often times the guidance office there will still help graduates. Also they may know of resources and be able to give you some advice about how to help him.

Meanwhile, can you get him set up with a volunteer "job"?
Jenniferswe
Jenniferswe
Thank everyone.
soul2soul
soul2soul
aspergers syndrome runs in most of my family
but in different degrees
& varies between characters. .
its a very frustrating thing both for the sufferer
& the carer..

with my son
I know when to push him & when not too
as over pushing makes his anxiety worse. .
my son is 18 now
& only now he's starting to be okay with certain shaped plates/bowls..
but stil fussy with his fork lol

he gets aggro phobic
my youngest child has it too
to the point she totally shut down when forced to go to school
I home schooled her too late
by time I pulled her out
she was never the same bubbly character
never regained her confidence.
shes now 15

both my children hav similar traits with it
as well as traits completely opposite.

worries with aspergers syndrome can spiral out of control in their perception of reality..

maybe chat with him
to strip away each layer of worry
until you get to the core worry he may have...
Jenniferswe
Jenniferswe
thank you
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