Asperger Syndrome Support Group

Asperger syndrome - also referred to as Asperger's syndrome, Asperger's, Aspergers or just AS - is one of five neurobiological pervasive developmental disorders (PDD), and is characterized by deficiencies in social and communication skills, normal to above normal intelligence, and standard language development.

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Telling parents about AS

potty245
potty245
I really want to tell my parents that im having tests for AS but I don't know how to due that we dont talk that much to each other, plus im too secretive and keep myself to myself.

My parents are controling, old fashioned, wanting to know whats happening with me and my brother, telling us what to do sometimes, my dad has a short fuse sometimes, also sometimes they treat us like children when we are not.

I dont what to do or who to turn to advice would be much appreciated
deleted_user
deleted_user
i have came to the conclusion that you should just come out and tell them they will either take it or diagree you need support but if your not gonna get it from your parents than you need to turn to others. my son has AS and it was hard for my parents to accept but they have come around to the realization that there is something wrong they now understand things better and accept it
deleted_user
deleted_user
You could:
1) come right out & tell them,
2) tell them you met a friend who has it & see their reaction, first
3) tell about Autism & Asperger's & the wasted potential in society, then tell them
4) give them brochures about it, or internet info., discuss that, then get to the subject...

diffferent ways like that.
deleted_user
deleted_user
If I tell someone I have AS their reactions are typically "no you don't" or they think its a totally bogus way for someone to complain about being a little different. Personally, this is something I have struggled with and those responses don't help. So while it might help to tell them, if you think the response would be negative or unhelpful then not telling them is okay too.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Send my website to them, and say, hey look at these things about AS, don't they look interesting? Maybe they'll look and think wow that sounds like our child... ?

Good Luck, Kris
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm writing about my partner who has high functioning AS. We discussed this weekend as to why he hasn't told his parents abou his condition and his response was:

it would make his moter worry even more than she does and she's already in bad health (he suspects she has AS too by her behaviour all her life and she inherited if from her]. Ergo he doesn't feel that teling her about something she may have is going to do her any favours at the age of 65. She's not a happy woman and has struggled her whole life with problems - what good would it do at this age to think she had a condition which lets face it is difficult to get to grips with.

RE: his father- very old school - doesn't even think that mental illness necessarily exists on a functional level. ie. if you're a complete raving loony then yes you have issues. However, if you're a functioning or semi-functioning individual then "just get on with it" At 71 is it fair to expect someone to take this onboard?

Opinions welcome!