Asperger Syndrome Support Group

Asperger syndrome - also referred to as Asperger's syndrome, Asperger's, Aspergers or just AS - is one of five neurobiological pervasive developmental disorders (PDD), and is characterized by deficiencies in social and communication skills, normal to above normal intelligence, and standard language development.

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startingover1865
startingover1865
My daughter got into trouble when she over-reacted at her job- to some mild teasing- and she swore. I cannot emphasize enough to her how she MUST watch her language. She is worse than ever. A few years ago she never used any bad words. Now it is typical that she swears every day. How can I get her to stop? She really almost lost the job because of it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sounds like she has some anger inside and she's not sure how to process it. Does she go to any type of therapy? She may be willing to hear it from someone else more than her own mother. Do her friends cuss a lot? Maybe it's normal around her friends or something. Could be bad influence by friends.
patti22
patti22
Just my 2 cents, but she seems to be going through the learning curve of kids as they learn about using bad words. (Most kids go through this at age 5-6 and learn how to control it a year of so later.) It will probably take more time for your daughter.

Actually I'd tone down your reaction. She probably will lose her job over it, but she doesn't have to lose the next one. Talk gently with her. Explain that there are times and places for everything (we don't take a bath in the middle of the street). Put it at her level, and stay calm. Expect that as with ALL learning, it will just take time.

IF the job is understanding, you might try talking to them about it. Otherwise chalk it up to natural consequences, and let the job be the bad guy that fires her, while you sit back.

Just my opinion...
deleted_user
deleted_user
if she has asperger syndrome...it's probably near impossible for her to control it. only she can take the steps to better controling her swearing.,.with aspergers, you cant make the person react differently. often you cant evevn help them.,its something they must try to do.with aspergers, you can't really control your actions. it takes YEARS of practice to get it down, and to "act" normal and not all "weird". I would know, I myself have Asperger Syndrome. Simply tell her to try on her own time not to swear, To do it at her own pace. That's really the only way.
Community Leaderacuriousfish
acuriousfish
I see she is 19.

I'm wondering if various tensions in her life are contributing to this and the apparent over reaction.

Of course it may be that she sees the mild teasing as something more serious and so from her perspective it's not an over reaction.

Not sure what to suggest.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thanks Beautiful for your comment. My son has the same issue. I've alsways felt that the A.S. played a part in this.
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