Asperger Syndrome Support Group
Asperger syndrome - also referred to as Asperger's syndrome, Asperger's, Aspergers or just AS - is one of five neurobiological pervasive developmental disorders (PDD), and is characterized by deficiencies in social and communication skills, normal to above normal intelligence, and standard language development.
I am a 21 year old married man who just got diagnosed with AS by my therapist. Also i am a GODly man and live to serve him. My wife and I have been getting therapy for quite a while now and my therapist gave me a unoffical diagnosis. We have been going to therapy because of my past porn addiction and have been wondering why I havent had therapy at the top of my priority list. I would forget things and just try to make my wife happy by doing small things in the house like dishes and vacuming while im layed off(temporary things to make her temporarily happy). But then we go back to our therapist the next week and she asks if I did my homework. Go to support groups, study aspergers syndrome, research things to help me. And when I tell her I didnt do any of that, she asks why. Why isnt this at the front of my priority list, when my wife has grounds for divorce. And she has grounds for divorce because I have reocurring problems with looking at other females. Not on the computer, or at porn. But how I look at women altogether. I see a woman and analize and depict what I like and define what is pretty. And then I start to pick apart my wife, as if she isnt pretty, and start to pick out her flaws. And that certainly isnt godly.And honestly I just dont know what i want to say. I just dont understand why im like this. I thought this was normal and everyone was like this. I guess im just asking for some insight on this and some help. thank you :)
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Wow, it's the middle of the week already!Today is our 11 year anniversary, so we're going out to a nice dinner. I'm losing a lot of sleep these days, hence a wonky schedule and uncomfortable feelings. But I know it will pass, eventually.I hope all of you have a peaceful day, and may good things come your way!
You haven't been diagnosed with Asperger's. You have just received a best guess from someone who is not qualified.
You need to get yourself a proper diagnosis. You cannot do it yourself, you cannot do it via the net because much of the stuff is wrong and a therapist isn't qualified to do it.
What people fail to understand is that there are many things that look like specific disorders - but because they only know for example "Asperger's" they look it up and find a match. If they had looked up other disorders they had never heard of then they would also get a match.
This has come up so many times here I actually have a cut and paste standard reply. Here it is
You can't diagnose Asperger's yourself
You cannot diagnose someone with Asperger's unless you also take into account the other disorders that look like Asperger's and discount them.
The disorders below are those that doctors need to distinguish from Asperger's when doing a diagnosis. So you would need to also have a good working knowledge of the following and how they present should two or more be present (e.g OCD and Avoidant Personality Disorder). The list comes from reading psychiatric papers on diagnosis of Asperger's.
certain forms of schizophrenia,
ADHD,
Avoidant Personality Disorder,
Schizoid personality (note that is not the same as schizophrenia)
Schizotypal personality disorder (note this is something different again)
Forms of OCD
Semantic pragmatic disorder
Multidimensionally impaired disorder
Cerebellar affective syndrome
Dyslogia
social–emotional learning disorder
Non-verbal learning disability
I have then found other web pages that reference these disorders as being similar
certain forms of Epilepsy
Fragile X syndrome
Hyperlexia
Dyspraxia
Prosopagnosia
Alexithymia
Additionally because descriptions and diagnostics tend to be a little vague for people outside of the profession you need alot of experience in seeing a large number of people with the disorders.That is why we usually don't simply diagnose them by asking them to complete a multiple choice questionaire.
Another reason why it is virtually impossible for a lay person to make a diagnosis is that diagnostics terms tend to be relative, e.g a description will be something like "significant impairment". What does that really mean? Only when you have seen a large number of people can you make that determination.