So me and my best friend both have Asperger's. Her case is quite the bit more severe than mine, so often I have been the more outgoing and...socially graceful one of the two. Socially, I would say she has the skills of someone about 14 or 15 years old. We are both 24. It does not help her much that while growing up she had an extremely strict and emotionally abusive father and stepmother who would shelter her from most social interactions that could have benefited her development (let me put it this way: I went with her to her first Heavy Metal concert when she was 18 years old and her dad and stepmom insisted that she had to be chaperoned...by them). As a result, she is very shy and...has no real idea how flirting or courtship even works, and she's extremely insecure about this.

Enough of the intro, let me get to the point. We went to the bar the other night to celebrate her having gotten a new job. She picked a song from the jukebox and asked the bartender to have our side of the bar with the volume turned up. Only caveat is that our voices were nearly drowned out by the sound the whole time and trying to have any sort of verbal conversation was labored.

We didn't care to have a certain conversation spoken out loud anyway, so we started sending text messages back and forth while enjoying the music...or so I thought. In the middle of me trying to respond to her, she tries to start a brand new conversation in my ear (which of course turned out to be straight up yelling, given the circumstances).

I became annoyed by this, though I tried to be patient. I asked her (probably in a sharper tone than I intended) to not yell in my ear while I am trying to text [her back]. She insisted that all she was trying to do was start up a new conversation while I was "being distracted with my phone," clearly missing the problem I was having at this point and I guess forgetting why I was even on my phone in the first place.

Awkward silence. She begins texting.

Only meaning to be playful, I raised my voice (not so that I was straight up screaming, and I was still a reasonable distance from her so that I was not yelling in her ear) and said "So I'm going to yell in your ear while you're trying to text back. Is that okay?" I was smiling, trying to just banter with her and she just continued to argue back with me using the same excuse.

I got frustrated at this point and began saying my responses to her texts out loud, which were about a guy she found attractive. I realize now that this definitely is what made her upset given her background.

She proceeded to repeatedly punching my arm. Me being stubborn, I kept giving her a taste of her own medicine until her tantrum was exhausted. After that, we just sat there in an awkward silence. Some things said here and there, but nothing entirely meaningful as she only had pictures of her phone and things like that to talk about.

I wasn't meaning to be malicious or mean to her, at all. I was only meaning to banter while getting my own point across...but I guess the only detail she was stuck on was me having started to answer the text messages out loud. Not that I don't feel like I can apologize for doing that, at all...

She became "tired" soon after that incident and we parted ways around 7 o' clock at night. Much later I sent her a message letting her know that I felt her punching my arm was unacceptable. The next morning I get a text back that was completely bizarre.

She more or less said that she wouldn't hit me if I wouldn't embarrass her the way I did, and that she already had told me that night that she had her period, so I should have seen that coming.

I tried reasoning with her that hitting people is not okay, that people have to talk out their problems and sadly, she wouldn't budge. I more or less told her that I was going to mess with her anymore, and she has not texted me since I sent her that text...on Wednesday, I think.

Can I get people's honest opinions? Am I a terrible friend? Is she wrong or right (not for hitting me, but for being angry with/ignoring me)?