Hi thanks so much for telling your story, you really touched me with what you said and I can relate to it. I am a fairly high functioning adult with aspergers and I have only recently, within the past 3 days actually, come to accept who I am! I had been with my girlfriend for 2 years and it was much the same as you described. I didn't work, I didn't do things with the woman I love, I tried to tell her I loved her in my own way but she didn't see it as that and it became misconstrued as malice and bad intentions! I'm on holiday with her now and she has really helped me have an epiphany moment where I realised who I was... I was aspergers, not a bad person! I wasn't mean or rude I just didn't work the same as them and she helped me see the beautiful person inside me. If you've ever seen Moulin Rouge it REALLY IS true that 'the greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return'. And your husband does love you, he wants to support you and make you feel loved and special as I'm sure you want to do for him! All we need is love :) tell him how special he is, when he leaves his job because he's scared and alone don't be angry, cuddle him and tell him it's okay because love conquers all and you'll be with him through thick and thin :) honestly I was contemplating suicide 3 days ago and I feel like I've got a new lease on life and it's inspired me to join these groups and try to help people like your husband and yourself because I know how hard it can be.. Just remember he loves you in his awesome special way, and just like all you want is love and affection so does he :) everything else will follow

Ps YOU TRY SO HARD, never ever feel like you're bad for being angry or that you can't feel disappointed by your husbands actions, but just remember that he isn't trying to hurt you, he just wants to love and be loved. Maybe try and think the same worry you feel about money he might feel about going to work and socializing or just being out the house all day - those things to me used to seem like the worst things in the world to me but now I know myself a bit better and I've realised I'm different;not less it's so much easier to talk to my fiance and explain to her how my awesome aspie mind works :p you just both have to be willing to think about the world in each others ways, try to meet in the middle not make something work :) hope I could help aquaria, good and luck and all my weird aspergers love to you and your husband