Asperger Syndrome Support Group
Asperger syndrome - also referred to as Asperger's syndrome, Asperger's, Aspergers or just AS - is one of five neurobiological pervasive developmental disorders (PDD), and is characterized by deficiencies in social and communication skills, normal to above normal intelligence, and standard language development.
Councellor tells me I have Asperger's
Or Autistic Spectrum Disorder now I suppose. Yestersay my councellor told me I likely have Asperger's, I have always suspected that I was slightly further up the spectrum than most people, but nothing major, is it possible to get an actual diagnosis, she is not qualified for it and honestly I doubt her. Not sure if I could get a diagnosis for low level Asperger's anyway (I am a 30 years old female).
I would like to describe how I feel I may be affected and as the people who live it I think you would be the expertse here, maybe you could give your opinion on if Asperger's fits?
(Sorry if this is offensive in anyway I do not intend it to be, mearly trying to comment on my own personality based on what I know of the Austism Spectrum)
So I have no obvious stimulation behaviour, maybe hand wringing, I can meet people's eye, I don't know that I have ever had a meltdown. Honesty is very important to me, I find social situations complicated and stressful but also fascinating but get through them by being honest, open and well intentioned, I don't read subtle ques very well, but have learned it as I got older, I sometimes do not know what is appropriate for each situation, I like hugs, though strangers getting too close makes me uncomfortable as well as the light touch being a problem for me, but I would describe that as feeling ticklish. I don't know if I have any savant type abilities but I can picture something incredibly clearly in my head and use this to recreate it, I can also quote lines and remember lyrics far better than most. I have a higher than average IQ 130 though not through a very reliable test, also dyslexic, I enjoy comfortable clothing, I don't like crowds but I do enjoy travelling and new sights, though I can become tired by them. My Grandfather I am fairly certain was Autistic, fairly severly. I do not often get into reltionships, I have many dear friends but they are spread through the country, the tend not to be "normal" do not try to fit in with social norms, I get on well with austic people in general, enjoy the parallel play style of behaviour, I have troubles knowing how to get a friendship from the acquaintance phase to a close friendship. I would describe myself as being an outgoing extrovert, I love meeting new people, generally don't care if they think I am a bit odd, but I get tired by constant social interaction. I focus intently, I don't think I have limited interests. I do not like interuptions and find it difficult to settle back in to work. A change in routine/ plan will unsettle me, I generally don't like too much routine but that's more to do with not being too much like my Mum, but I do feel better when I can plan ahead and if what I am expecting to happen is derailed this can throw my mood off. I find organised things soothing but it is not necessary. I ramble to fill silence's and while I can be an excellent active listener I will talk "at" people, internal monologue made external style. I have never enjoyed people that I would describe as being "all front". I have trouble spotting sacrasm. I am very observant. I enjoy fancy dress and role play. I do not believe gender to be important.
That's all I've got for now, well done for getting this far through my ramble haha, any input would be appreciated thank you.
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If you want to know for sure then see a psychiatrist - there isn't any other way. Good luck!
If it's in the US it may be hard to find one that is willing to diagnose an adult with ASD. If you are in the Uk it's straightforward, talk to your GP about your issues and ask to be referred to your local mental health people for a diagnosis.