Alot of people do not understand that it is hard for you to communicate.They may think you are doing things to annoy them.Or sometimes the people that do understand may try to just point iti out to you as not to make you feel bad but so you can also see.Also if someone would like for you to change the subject it may be due to they have something they would like to share or that it isn't good for you to focus on one subject as much as you like.I hope that I was helpful to you in this.Know that I am always here to talk if you need to.Tee

Nothing that you wrote about makes you seem not compassionate, it sounds like you have plenty of compassion but trouble communicating it in a way others can understand. I learned to seem compassionate in an exceedingly robotic way, looking in the mirror and trying to copy facial expressions of people on TV or pictures trying to look compassionate. I know it is a fake face, but I don't feel bad about it because I already feel compassion, its just that people can't understand my way of expressing it, so I learn their language. It sounds like to me you have compassion because you do not intend to hurt people's feelings, its more just the rules of etiquette, what people are allowed to talk about and not that you have trouble with. I don't know too much about how to help, but perhaps if you start out more polite and removed than necessary, you will soon learn what is appropriate to say from your friends talking to each other instead of the hard way, getting in trouble.

I have to tell my dad,"think before you speak." I tell people upfront, please don't take anything the wrong way, it always comes out differently than I mean it. I catch my self, and think of what to say first.

A book that might be helpful to you is "Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships" by Dr. Temple Grandin and Sean Barron. They explain some of the difficulties that Aspies have with communicating, etc. I found it to be very interesting.

Wouldn't the world be a much happier place if people would just accept others for the way they are instead of everyone just having to fit into a certain mold?

Catlover, you do not seem to be inconsiderate or not compassionate at all. I agree with Sally that you just are having a difficult time communicating. Maybe a "fidget" would help you to think before you speak and to remind you to not monopolize a conversation. These are both strong traits of Aspergers syndrome and no there is nothing "wrong" with you. People just need to appreciate you for the wonderful thoughtful person you are. Accept yourself for the way you are, and do not be insecure in that. Your self-esteem seems to be very low, which is also usually a trait because Aspies are compassionate by nature, but just do not know how to communicate that; therefore, they begin to feel bad about themselves because they think others do not accept or like them.

Always remember that you are a very unique and important person. We are here to help you feel good about yourself, so share with us anytime you have the need to do so. Gram

I do have a hard time communicating and expressing my feelings to others. I just need to learn about what is appropiate and what isn't appropiate. Sometimes I will ask people online things like: How do you not undserstand this or that or how do you not know if you're part of this or that group. Then people will get upset with me and sometimes they think that I am making them feel stupid. I don't purposely make people upset and I don't purposely make people feel upset. I hope that I make since. Thank you for your responses everyone. I am really glad that I have the support and encouragement here. Take Care. Dawn