Asperger Syndrome Support Group
Asperger syndrome - also referred to as Asperger's syndrome, Asperger's, Aspergers or just AS - is one of five neurobiological pervasive developmental disorders (PDD), and is characterized by deficiencies in social and communication skills, normal to above normal intelligence, and standard language development.
My son is 10, and never makes the 'right' decisions. He knows right from wrong, but basically doesn't understand the rules/laws. He doesn't understand how they apply to him. A lot of times conforming to rules produces anger and physical aggression. There is no remorse or empathy. There is no reasoning with him. He can be such a sweet, smart, funny kid and he is being labelled as a 'bad kid' by his school and people in the neighborhood.
I try to give him positive feedback, but when asked, he'll say he's a bad kid. He has so much potential :) I feel like if something doesnt get taken care of soon, he will be 'doomed' to a life of not keeping jobs, or behind bars. He is about 2 steps from a juvenile delinquent center, and he is not like that! I am afraid if they decide he needs supervision let that it is setting his life up for failure.
I do not know how to turn this around. We talk about choices and consequences. He's on ADD medication, and that helps some. I have taken him to counseling. I've tried being strict. I've tried being supportive, encouraging and loving. He is my sweetheart, and my heart is breaking for this little boy that didn't ask to be this way. I am at the end of my rope here!
Anyone please!? Please share your positive stories. Please tell me if anything worked. Please tell me I am not alone.
I try to give him positive feedback, but when asked, he'll say he's a bad kid. He has so much potential :) I feel like if something doesnt get taken care of soon, he will be 'doomed' to a life of not keeping jobs, or behind bars. He is about 2 steps from a juvenile delinquent center, and he is not like that! I am afraid if they decide he needs supervision let that it is setting his life up for failure.
I do not know how to turn this around. We talk about choices and consequences. He's on ADD medication, and that helps some. I have taken him to counseling. I've tried being strict. I've tried being supportive, encouraging and loving. He is my sweetheart, and my heart is breaking for this little boy that didn't ask to be this way. I am at the end of my rope here!
Anyone please!? Please share your positive stories. Please tell me if anything worked. Please tell me I am not alone.
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My son had a very rough kindergarten year and got labeled by the other kids as one of the bad kids. School was frustrated with him too. Being so smart, they couldn't understand why he didn't conform.
My best advice is this. If he hasn't been diagnosed, and you think he's on the spectrum, call the school psychiatrist and try to get them to evaluate him. Might work, might not.
If you can do it on your own, that much the better. You might need to start with a pediatrician visit and get a referral from there.
If you can get an IEP that gives you legal rights and the ability to fight the school on interventions that you think are detrimental. (I fought them on a smiley face chart. I got it changed to a written contract that I knew would be much less threatening to my son. They wanted him to have "accountability", I told them that we all knew my son was visually sensitive and that shining a spot light into his eyes wouldn't help him see better...)
As for your son. I'd worry less about the "remorse" and "empathy". And focus more on your relationship with your son. Keep it positive.
School can take care of school with punishments. They tend to go heavy handed anyway. My message to my son was that I thought he was a great person, and he grew into that. (I can give stories of my VERY social daughter acting in very unemphatic and unapologetic ways, far more than my son was able to...)