LOL apoll! I tried to put out the fire and point out that her husband was blameshifting, except he was doing it with the OW instead. She doesn't seem to be responding. I thought she went off the deep end with coping and blonde because they weren't the slightest bit confrontational. She's clearly not ready to deal.

I just saw this and so agree! This woman is so not ready to deal with the fact that her hubby was sleeping with someone when she was all pregnant. She would rather blame it on EVIL taking a hold in thier lives, than actually hold him accountable.

Pass me the chocolate?

And she is over in the Rebuilding Room calling us bitter.

How freaking nice.

And who could NOT love Blondie? REally? I don't think she wanted to hear what she NEEDED to hear. Rather, I think she wanted to hear what she wanted to hear. And that's it.

I think I may have to stear clear from her. Coping and Blondie didn't have that coming.

L~

I thought that woman was freakin' pissed. As far as the christian part goes. Hatred is not supposed to part of God.... so he is condradicting himself. And calling O/W trash....What is he? Sounds like he is trying to say the devil made me do it. At least Reid can't come here.... rambling now...lol@me

I hear you, Lis. Her reaction was WAYYYYY overboard. I had to scrape my jaw off the floor. Aside from her Christian stance, if she is almost a year out from DDay, wouldn't you think she would have gotten to the point of saying to herself, 'My H did this? Not EVIL, Not the OW, but my H?' When is she going to do that?

L~

He might be word F****** her too. I advised her to look for a christian forum to post on. I am 3 mos past and in christian counseling and doing much better. We all heal in our own time. I think she got angry because she was hoping someone would believe his line of crap. She prob knew that letter wasn't right on in her heart. I went to the rebuilding board and she did not post the letter there... just told her story... what does that mean?

I earned my degree from advanced bartending, thankyou very much.

Lis...advanced bartending...LOL. I earned mine out on the factory floor, myself.

Maybe she'll have better luck in a Christian forum. I don't know. Could be. All I know is, if she's cussing a blue streak in THERE...Whoa! Then she'll get all pissed off again???!!!

I just chalk her up to 'can't please everyone.'

Did you really think Blondie had that one coming? Really? To me, it was just another point of view. Another stance. Something to consider. And she went off.

L~

Blonde was right on... no doubt. She also apologized for offending the woman. I have heard plenty of advice that I didn't use and plenty I did. I mean, It is a public forum with many members soooo she should expect to hear a wide range of opinions. She just wanted to go off imo, and Blonde and Imdeal was the target for the day. We both know who she should be going off on... not the OW for sure and noone here.

Factory Floor? LOL is that why the messed up leg/back?...

Lis, I love Blondie and maybe YOU are just way more centered than this woman was. 'You take what works for you and you leave the rest.' Maybe she did want to just spew at someone. I just dont think she wants to hear anything that disagrees with her.

I tell you, I did post some issues here that I had with my Man and Wow, did I get some feedback and I thought, 'hold it, whoa....that is so not right.' I think we may jump on the 'cheating band wagon' when it actually is not. Not all the time. And my Man got a bit slammed. That was hard for me. Cuz it wasn't true. So, I learned my lesson that way. 'Be ready to hear some hard stuff if you put it out there.'

...and sometimes, we can be a bit jaded.

Factory floor...for 20 years. Is that the reason for my back issues? could be. Not sure. I had a car accident and have rods in my lower back. I also have degenerative discs in my upper spine that evolved into a slipped disc, fusion upper spine, and now bulging discs above that upper spinal fusion with more degeneration below. Sooooo, it could be the work, but it could be 'just me' with the work aggravating it all.

That make sense, Lis?

L~

Man. that stinks. My oldest daughter has a bulging disc and is only 27. The docs wont touch her b/c of her age. She is in pain all the time and has 3 kids to take care of... who really can tell what can cause it. I mean I lifted 50 lb kegs of beer for 15 yrs, worked double shifts, on my feet all day/night.... coupla car wrecks... back is fine! So, My daughter... you... it must really suck, but you seem to have good a spirit

Centered? Yes at 42 I know who I am and am just an upbeat person by nature. I finally just said screw it. I am just not gonna feel like this everyday all the time... It did take a while and who knows how I will feel next week. Luv ya girl!

Lis Honey, keep me posted on your daughter! Man, that is too young to be dealing with that. I had my first back surgery around 30. I am 48 now. Why on earth won't they touch her? Is she on pain pills? anti inflammatories?

...and you are truly blessed to NOT have this. Really, it is unbearable.

Centered - yes, you certainly are. Very centered. 'gonna feel like this everyday' attitude. Reminds me of when all this was hitting the fan, with the divorce and a bunch of other stuff...and man, very hard...and something stupid happened and I laughed. Out of line laughter. Like when you laugh in church or something. And it felt so good to laugh. I decide to Not Have A Day Without Laughing. Like you said, 'screw it!'

Honey, I call it 'taking myself back.'

L~

I have a sinking feeling that her h isn't quite the upstanding guy she wants and needs. My Spidey senses tell me there's more crap to dig up. She may not consciously know it, but her anger is very telling.

Does anyone else sense this?

Shtmy - Yup... And just his words.. he sounds creepy..

I am staying off the infidelity board for a bit.... too jerry springer like for me. I find I am letting myself get sucked in too much. OMG.....that cross dressing thing..... too much for me.

Why thank you ma'am but not yet. Where is the thread please.

Mick- it is the thread titled CS denying me comforts in Infidelity