in my children's case my oldest never really had a good relationship with her father (his fault). He was controlling and abusive. So when we divorced she did try to have a relationship with him but it didn't work out. His family never really reached out to her so she does not have a relationship with them other than 2 of her cousins. My youngest seems her father about 3 times a year and seems fine with that. I really am not sure what is in her head about all that but I let her decide if she wants to go or not. My girls are now 19 and 13. I really wish things were different. I begged him to go to counseling with our oldest daughter but he said he didn't have the money.But he seems to find the money for things he choses to do. I have never stood in their way of spending time with their father or his family. I recently accompanied them to his mother's funeral. I try to tell them stories about his family stories so they will know where they came from

This is a very very good topic. I'm very blessed to have found y'all as i've been a victim of parental alienation for the last 6 years of my life. My ex got remarried to the girl who tore our marriage apart. She's a complete home wrecker really. He has kept my daughter form me for 6 years with no contact at all even though it's been court ordered. His new hocker has brought the man who raped me back into my life. So their not only trying to play evil against me but now their emotional abusing my kids. As my are toying with my son to only allow him to see his dad when they need things from him. So it's only when they have their hands out wanting free things. Which is another against the law action. When he was brought back into my life to have the DNA test done there is a window of exception for a RAPE of 3 years. He was within that while we were going to court and he stepped out. So my then lawyer did nothing and I was messed over again. now i've been speaking with my att. general on this and they can still go after him as their all facing prison time now. I'm so sick of waiting fo the IOWA courts to let us in LORD it's hard to wait anymore. I hate watching my kids have to go through this all the time and be hurt more and more and more. There was a time oddly my ex and I use to be able to work together on things putting our yuck aside and putting the kids first in everything but not since his hocker took his balls from him. Which I find very very very funny. He'll have his day in front of the maker. As we all will so when your out drinking all alone in the country you best seriously be thinking of who's out there with you and who's watching you. I will fight til my death for my kids and I WILL NOT EVER EVER go down without knowing justice is served.