Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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jessaheart 02/12/2015

Recently I've started to have a bit of anxiety related to my new job. I'm a bridal consultant, which requires me to be constantly interacting with customers. I'm very nice to people but I'm not a "people-person" because I naturally don't have that type of personality. I've always been sort of quiet, calm and nonchalant. I get so nervous talking to certain types of brides, especially the ones who are very serious or much older than me. I'm fine with ones with bubbly personalities because it makes me comfortable and rubs off on me. I'm good at the job in itself but I don't want someone to leave a bad review saying I seemed disinterested or anything, when in reality I'm just nervous talking to them. I worry what they think of the experience I'm giving them and that makes it worse. I'm trying to be more confident so I can feel not awkward about being talkative but i don't know where to start.

Anyone have similar issues? Advice on how to be confident with slight social anxiety?

cloverset14 02/12/2015

I think that you'll feel better once you become more acclimated to the job. In the long run, having a calm demeanor will be beneficial. I'm sure that the brides are excited, nervous and in some instances, overwhelmed. If you go through your day trying to match their levels of energy or hysterics, you'll be exhausted and a nervous wreck yourself. That's not going to work for anybody!

To me, a calm, quiet bridal consultant would convey a level of confidence and authority. Run with it!

(((HUGS!!)))

valgal18 02/12/2015

i just finished college to become an American Sign Language/ASL interpreter.....what i've learned from doing practicum and signing for people is that things get better with time.....i think as you become more familiar with the job and the more people you interact with, you'll be fine....in the meantime, until that happens, fake it 'til you make it....it's a little different but in interpreting you often go into the situation cold and you just have to put on your ASL face, good posture and shower on the confidence....if you don't have confidence in yourself, then it will be harder to do your job....i think as long as you know what you're doing-even if you fake it-you'll be perfectly fine.....i'm sure you'll be great!!!!

nict88 02/13/2015

I feel anxious quite a lot at work at the moment to the point I am considering leaving. I constantly worry I am doing something wrong and I am going to lose my job, I find it hard to concentrate and retain information because of the anxiety its so frustrating.

jessaheart 02/13/2015

Thanks everyone. I actually discussed this with two of my coworkers because I was nervous about having to answer the phone. They both told me they felt the same way when they started (shocking to me because they're so outgoing). The advice they gave me: Just fake it. You're essentially playing dress up so just smile and talk, even if it feels out of character.

As for answering the phone.. I did end up flubbing my words with the first call and it was embarrassing but now I'm good lol.

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