Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
Ok I figured out a huge issue with me. The reason why my relationships with my school friends are pretty off for the past months is beause of this. The issue isn't so much of them, but more of me. I realized that on my PHONE on social media and texting, I am a totally different person because I am more outgoing, have more interesting things to type, but in person it's so so off. Like I don't know why. I really honestly have no idea what to say to bring up interesting conversations. And maybe part of this is because of my fear. Fear of bothering them after they became closer friends with someone else too.
For example, today I was with my former best friend and her new best friend. I passed by them and said hi and they just awkwardly said hi to because they literally have never heard me talk to them before. I kind of get lost in thought when realistically as soon as I start talking and laughing, that anxiety passes. IT really passes. Once I start talking even just a little bit, and hearing my own voice and my own being, that anxiety really gets released. But then as soon as I become quieter again and as soon as I start listening to other people's conversations that anxiety builds up and I start wanting to avoid those situations. So ultimately I am afraid of going to them and starting my own conversations so we can become closer again.
Like I said before, on my phone I am able to internalize everything and say so much more and appear more outgoing but in real life it's almsot like those phone conversation and posts were fake. Because it's not always like that in person.
First suggestion: If I were you, I would get a social therapist. They will give you the help you need.
Second suggestion: You you don't want to get a therapist, try improving your self confidence. A lot of social anxiety comes from not being confident enough to talk to them. Every day when you wake up in the morning, say something good about yourself. It will begin to help. If you ever have a negative thought, switch it up. for example, "I can't do this!" then add YET to the end.
I hope this helps