Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
For some reason I got it in my head that when you find the person you are going to marry (or any relationship really) that things are supposed to just be good all the time. I worry that arguments mean that the relationship isn't working. Soon many people have told me that arguments are normal. I just cant seem to believe that. I don't know where this wrong thinking started and how to get rid of it.
My fianc have small arguments often. They are usually stupid and don't really last. I am also very sensitive and don't like when people are mad at me. So most things that should just roll off my shoulders really gets to me.
We could be having a disagreement about something stupid or serious and I feel very strongly about whatever my side is but for some reason I feel like his feelings matter more and I'm wrong because he feels different. ( I get like this with family too just not the same as a relationship)
I know these are my issues and things I need to work out on my own. I was just wondering what are normal daily arguments in marriage or relationships. And any tips on not feeling like my feelings don't matter.
Oh and he has never treated me like my feelings don't matter. Maybe in an argument when he is focused on his side but in general he encourages me so speak up.
My fianc have small arguments often. They are usually stupid and don't really last. I am also very sensitive and don't like when people are mad at me. So most things that should just roll off my shoulders really gets to me.
We could be having a disagreement about something stupid or serious and I feel very strongly about whatever my side is but for some reason I feel like his feelings matter more and I'm wrong because he feels different. ( I get like this with family too just not the same as a relationship)
I know these are my issues and things I need to work out on my own. I was just wondering what are normal daily arguments in marriage or relationships. And any tips on not feeling like my feelings don't matter.
Oh and he has never treated me like my feelings don't matter. Maybe in an argument when he is focused on his side but in general he encourages me so speak up.
Now I just have to remember this
Yep totally agree with everything thas been said and i can back this up right....
My other half (eff that phrase is just so not enough its not even funny) Brit and I both suffer with anxiety and get this right, trust me YOU DO NOT KNOW a couple more into eachother, what we got is effing enormous and anxiety can even close US down.
BUT (and i proved this this very weekend) Not even anxiety will keep us apart for long.
Its not the argument, disagreement, whatever the eff you want to call it that is important. All that is, is an opportunity, for you to see, with your own damn eyes, that when you love someone, really love someone, you just cant, wont, live without them. Walk away if you need to, the important thing is wether you come back and how quick you do it. NO COUPLE in the whole effing world will live harmoniously like all the time.
ESPECIALLY, if one or both has anxiety. It just wont happen.
Brit and Steve
Why is anxiety so sneaky that it tries to make me believe that my relationship is causing the anxiety not anxiety causing anxiety.
Yes there are times he triggers anxiety but he doesn't intend to. Sometimes when I have been worked up with worry for a period of time ANYTHING can make me anxious. Today he asked if I will be able to have kids because I'm getting older and I could feel myself start to get anxious. Thankfully that was really small and nothing I had a reason to worry about. But it's little comments he says that just come out not meaning harm that make me anxious. ( on a non anxious day I would have been able to brush that off with out a thought)