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cantbelieveit
cantbelieveit

My anxiety and panic attacks are way high today !! Yesterday I found out that my husband of 20 years is bisexual.  He has been using a web site and meeting other men.  He has been having sex with them too.  I have seen reviews left by other men detailing their experiences with him. He wants our marriage to work and says it's me he loves and said he will not use the sites again.  I dint believe he will be able to do this.   I'm so hurt, shocked and confused.  What test should I take to make sure I have no disease too 

NikkiInTheDesert
NikkiInTheDesert
Sorry this has happened to you, I would get a full STD panel done and file for divorce.
broken1003
broken1003
Im so sorry. Get all the tests. And a divorce i dare say trust is shot.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
Before you do anything, consult an attorney (this will be necessary to preserve facts needed for a balanced decision).

Writing it out is an important first step in helping you process all the emotions, feelings, and thoughts.

Do Not let your emotions guide your decisions. Breathe, and pause to remind your self that you are stronger than the feelings, and being calm also makes it easier to listen and observe and be kind to your self.

Best wishes as you process everything to make changes for your well-being.
hyperpgal
hyperpgal
I would go and get a test for everything. you don't know if they were protected. I would take screen shots of the conversations--and write down everything he told you==all the facts. then sit and think about how you feel about each aspect of this and what you need to do about it. do what is right for you. don't consider what other people think or how it would affect others.
Sunshinegirl0228
Sunshinegirl0228
That’s awful! Go to your obgyn and tell them you need a full std work up and blood tests for hiv/aids too. I pray all comes back negative.
caligirl83
caligirl83
This is absolutely heartbreaking. I can’t begin to imagine how you must be feeling. I recently broke up with my bf of 1 year and decided to go get checked up for STDs. You should absolutely do the same, especially given the circumstances. I know the anxiety of waiting for results is unbearable. Go to a place that will be able to deliver results fast and request a full STD panel. I wish you all the best. Oh and also, I wouldn’t stay.
donttread
donttread
Wow! That's a lot to take in which will probably take you some time to do. As for the STD's I'm old and been married pretty much forever so I have no idea. I would at least Google anything that doesn't have many acute symptoms in women
Hang in there
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