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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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starting over.... again

sunsets1386
sunsets1386
I came across a quote... "strength shows not only in the ability to persist but in the ability to start over"... I couldn't have said it better or more than that! I'm struggling with my own tendencies to get bored or fearful of the future. I just moved into a really safe nice apartment. Its really small but a little bigger than my last. I'm so proud of myself for getting and keeping a decent job, but struggle with my fear of never making enough money, possibly having to move back into my moms.. Not doing enough, not having enough time to do everything that needs to be done. I want to ask for a raise at work but they've been saying they want to promote me for the past three months... I've only been there for six.. But I feel i'm worth more than what i'm getting paid. I worked all weekend while everyone partied, including my boyfriend... normally this would send me into a tailspin.. But I sucked it up and made the best of it that I could... Now i'm on my way back to work.. Which I should just be thankful to have a job, but am frustrated bc i'm supposed to have my mattresses delivered.. Been sleeping on the floor for a week, and my hours are not the normal mon through Friday 9-5... Which my boyfriend uses against me saying I need a "real job". I make 12 an hour and after working corporate jobs for about the same pay, i'm for the most part actually happy where I am. My question is, when is it enough... For me for everyone else... When will I find peace in my day to day living and stop fearing things that seem out of control. I'm nervous about my friend flaking and not being here to let the mattress men in. i'm nervous about not having energy to go to yoga tonight at 8 after work. I'm nervous about the mounds of laundry I haven't been able to get to for the past week... I'm 26 and am watching all my old friends pass me by in terms of professional as well as personal life as my boyfriend of three years is so focused on work and making money that he admittedly can't be there for me add much as I would like. When will these thoughts just STOP!!! Any constructive advice and help would be so appreciated. Much love xoxo
deleted_user
deleted_user
It sounds like you have a lot happening in your life at the moment. If I could give you any advise I would say figure out one task or problem before you move on to the next. In that post alone you listed at least five fears so instead of fighting all of your fears at once break them down. For example you said you are worried about your friend being there to open your door for the mattress delivery person. All you can do is your part. Remind your friend to be at your apartment, give them a key to get in and tell them the time the delivery guy will be there. That is all you should worry about because that is all you have control over. If you find yourself fighting the what ifs, what if my friend does not show up, what if the delivery is late, etc.Just remember you did all you could do.
As for your beginning quote I agree completely. I have just started to examine my life to try and figure out my anxiety...for about the third time. I sent you a friend request if you want to talk more about how to solve your problems.
Matthew