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I know nobody here knows what to say or just doesn't want to say anything about this.....BUT I am so heartbroken today but my X and his constant need to slander me in a public forum for our community. For the past month he has been on almost every article that involved divorce/marriage or child custody issues and he taken that opportunity to make up total and complete lies about the true facts of our situation. I am not perfect by all means. And yes I will admit I was done trying to be the women/person he wanted/needed me to be. The struggles of being married to someone who is BP was just to much for me to handle. And I took our child and I ran. I filed for divorce and a restraining order. I was granted all I asked for, not because I was the better parent/person for our child (although the restraining order was needed due to certain threats he has made). I got what I asked for because he didn't even fight for any of it. In fact he asked for less time with his child than I originally gave him because he "wanted time for himself".....
Now he makes spends his time making my out to be an awful person who has no heart. Here we are 5 years later and he's never asked for modifications to the parenting plan, does not pay child support because our child is on SSI due to medical issues he was born with. And I give him more time than the parenting plan was granted because him for my child's sake.
even though I know all he write is lies and only to boost his self worth, it hurts and it makes my anxiety unbearable.........
I can only take in comfort the fact that I no longer have to live with this man. But why must I keep being punished. Why does god allow someone so hateful continue to torture people with his mean and ugly ways.....
WHY????
Now he makes spends his time making my out to be an awful person who has no heart. Here we are 5 years later and he's never asked for modifications to the parenting plan, does not pay child support because our child is on SSI due to medical issues he was born with. And I give him more time than the parenting plan was granted because him for my child's sake.
even though I know all he write is lies and only to boost his self worth, it hurts and it makes my anxiety unbearable.........
I can only take in comfort the fact that I no longer have to live with this man. But why must I keep being punished. Why does god allow someone so hateful continue to torture people with his mean and ugly ways.....
WHY????
I know you are right, all I can do is try to reframe from getting sucked into the negativity I fought so hard to get away from.
Thank you
Aww, I so understand how you feel. My ex did the same, and my daughter just ended a relationship, where he is the good guy, and she is the bad one. We live in a small, small town, and oh how the tongues wag!! Everyone usually advises you to just ignore it, you know the truth, etc., but I know how hard that is. Like you, I will never understand why mean people so often get away with slander?! Just know there are people here who care and know the truth.
Thank you....And you are so right. Everyone here at DS has been so kind and helpful. Also I did get some peace yesterday as I and my spouse contacted the local news forum her was slandering me on and had them remove his comments. I felt like that was a huge step in my independence. But I cant help but be somewhat scared of what is to come in his scary need to get even.
For now I remain in my peace bubble and I can remain content about that :0)
Yes all of which you have suggested is all great advice. And I do try my hardest to do all of that. Most of the time when I see stuff that has been posted it is purely by accident. Or someone else brings it to my attention. I do agree, out of sight out of mind. '
Yesterday I actually fought back, I informed the news forum that all he was saying was slander and they removed the comments made, plus told me they would keep and eye out for similar comments.
So I am feeling pretty good about that :0)
Thank you
Shelby