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Scared of losing feelings.

michiev
michiev
I didn't really know where else to put this and I suppose these thoughts are because of my anxiety anyway (I often times get paranoid about people deserting me, leaving me, abandoning me.. what have you) And i still have those fears in the background... But I have this friend.. he's been my friend for a long time, Except this year I realized that i have feelings for him.. He lives in new york with his fiance (Yeah, yeah.. Please don't judge, it's not like I ASKED for any of this)

But i don't know how I feel about him, not really.. I know I like him a lot but I don't know if that's all it is, and if that is all it is.. If it's just a crush then what happens if/when it goes away? I really like.. liking him, and I haven't felt this way about someone for a long time.. You know when you have a celebrity crush and then one day you don't like that person anymore after time? Or like with any crush.. sometimes you just stop feeling that way about them.. I don't really want to lose the feelings I have for my friend...

Any advice? I hope this is easy to understand, I feel like I'm making no sense.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It is hard to understand. From what I understand you are afraid that if you will take your friend from his fiance and than later will loose feelings for him you will feel bad that you took somebody from fiance, gave them hope, distroyed their relantionship with somebody but not able to offer something (serious relationship) of equal value to substitute lost one. Do not judging you (cheating myself).
It should be your friend's problem. He will have to choose whether he wants go one road or another. There is no guaranties in any relationship. You can not control all circumstances. It all depends on how much he loves his fiance. If he loves his fiance he will stay with her. In other case, it is not your fault.