i am so sorry. i know the feeling when they don't seem to validate how i feel about meds...and they have all the power.


everything happens for a reason...goood luck with finding a really good therpist/ppyschiatrist/doctor

to be honest i dont think medical training touches enough on mental health issues and so many other illnessess. its a shame because so many people are suffering through ignorance. I have to pay to see alternative health doctors because they do more in depth training and treat the whole person not just the symptoms.
Ive ran out of patience with doctors because they often dont listen or understand. its frustrating i know x

Yea, I'm super upset!! I feel like he gave up on me because we didn't get along. After almost a year of being together, he totally tossed me out. Well, I quit actually because we were arguing. ....then he wouldn't take me back. I totally need to just let go of this and let god.

Well at least my friends on DS didn't throw me away like he did!!

we understand sometimes more then they do cause we are fellow suffferers ....and they seem to have all the power so we can't even argue or disagree cause they hold our presriptions in their power

doing for you what you could not do for yourself. are you open to that? i try to tell god how to do his job, that i dont deserve freedom yet because i have done a, b, c or i am this or that. he doesnt seem to care. if i am willing to let him love me he will

Maybe he is just wise enough to know that you could be better helped by somebody you didn't clash so much with, and he didn't want you wasting your time and money anymore. Remember, usually we are a lot more personally invested in the doctor/patient relationship than they are. Their decisions are based on logic and knowledge, not emotion, and that is probably the best thing for us since we aren't really thinking as clearly as we normally are when we are going through anxious periods. I hope you find a great new therapist.

Perhaps a different approach would have been to make a list of the things that were concerning you about your treatment plan and made an appointment to see him and discuss options, up to and including finding a new doctor, if you felt your current plan wasn't working. Arguing never solves anything and writing a letter instead confronting what bothers you leaves the other person feeling without recourse, so it is not really a surprise he said find another doctor, is it? When you say "Here we go again, switching doctors," perhaps there's something more here. I don't know and can't comment on that. You sound as if you feel you have some inadequacies by saying "You weren't a good enough patient for him." I would think part of the progress in therapy is not to hide behind a letter(the letter being symbolic), but learning to confront the very things that make you concerned, so you don't have to feel like a jerk, but confident and secure that you talked to him face to face and spoke, not wrote, your cohesive, diplomatic thoughts and if still at an impasse, that you can part ways. Good luck with finding a doctor/therapist and achieving the goals you're seeking.

Thanks for all your replies. I totally appreciate your thoughts and honesty. This one was a lesson learned, FOR SURE!

I think i invest too much of myself in these relationships, and really give them too much power, when I know that my recovery will come from inside. I will learn to let more things go, and understand that humans are fallible. Take what I can from them, but I don't have to take all of it.

I've had so many different shrinks and therapists over the years, mainly due to insurance reasons, but sometimes it does end in this manner. I am hardheaded when I want something, and I'm not afraid to be assertive and honest about it. And I want them to agree with me. I want to control the situation, when actually I just need to let it go...Accept the things I can not change...I don't need to be the director all the time, and this I am learning. Hard lesson this time, but happened for a reason.

I do think I should have brought this stuff up in session so we could have talked about it, because in hindsight I think there was just a misunderstanding, but it fell after several sessions of just not getting along and me already giving it a few chances.
Now I think I'm just pissed because I want what I can't have!

@pluginplay I totally agree with you! In fact, I did make a list of issues that I had and brought it to the session, and we only got thru two of them.

It just got the the point where he was causing me more stress than not, and maybe it was something I should have powered thru to get to the real recovery, but now that option is gone.
I had a good meeting with a new MFT who does the same kind of CBT work, and since she doesn't do meds, that won't be an issue....I really like my new shrink, and will be happy to move on with someone who doesn't have a "my way or highway" approach, with all his biases.

I will only wish upon this old doctor all the love and happiness I would want for myself.

Thanks again all.

My psychiatrist has tried me on all kinds of different drugs and none of them seemed to help so 1 1/2 mts ago I weened myself off of effexor and am doing the alternative approach. I've been reading about what supplements help along with everything natural. Changing my diet and especially working on my thinking and my reactions to bad thought's and how to stop the bad thinking in the early stages. I work very hard with getting better and learn so much from others on here especially Lilygirl. I 've stopped seeing my psychiatrist and have a great psychologist and am determined to stay drug free no matter the consequences. Thats just me though. The drugs were getting so frustrating for me that they weren't working so I decided if I do bad with them I'd just as soon do bad without them. Gradually with practicing everyting I've been learning from reading and friends on here I'm doing better, little by little and I refuse to give up. I'm grateful for the help I get from friends on here and I sometimes copy advice thats given to others on here because it helps me out so much. Lilygirl is on the money and I've taken all of her advice to others and worked harder with it! I think it's great that people like her take time to give advice on here. She has missed her calling. Good luck to you. Keep moving and don't give up. Take care. O