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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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renee1979 09/06/2011

Ok i have a huge problem on my hands and it doesn't have anything to do with anxiety except it's giving me tons of it!! Iv'e seen such smart compassionate people on DS since being here i hope you can help me. I have a best friend since childhood and about 8 mo. ago or so she left a 15 year relationship with her Husband to be with thisother guy. He's younger than her and she constantly brags about how in love she is and he is the best guy ever and good to her kids and on and on. Well i found out from a very reliable source that the whole time she has been with him he has been seeing some other woman. I am torn because i don't know if i should burst her happy in love bubble and tell her or just stay out of it. I know if it were me i would want to know. Also the other woman will not admit it if confronted about it because she is in a serious relationship with some one else also. If i do tell her and she chooses not to believe me it could ruin our friendship especially if she stays with him. If i don't tell her i feel like it would eat me alive! What would you do if you were in my shoes?

deleted_user 09/06/2011

I would tell in as nice a way as possible. I know that if I were her I would want to know too. I have in fact been in this same position. All you can do is let her know exactly what you know and let her decide what to do with the rest. You 2 have been friends for so long that I highly doubt she would be angry with you. She might be upset and hurt but I feel like she needs to know. Try not to worry about it too much. :)

deleted_user 09/06/2011

How about..."I don't really know what to think about what I heard but I thought you would want to know so you could check it out yourself. It may be nothing or it may be something, but I thought you would want to know and I am here for you whatever it may be."

You gotta say something, you said so yourself, or it will eat you alive.

good luck, you sound like a great friend

deleted_user 09/06/2011

What ever you do do not become an accuser. Do not accuse anybody of any thing because you have not seen this guy with another girl your self. I would tell my friend "I know you are going out with so and so but I heard he was seeing some one else." If your friend gets upset just remind her you do not know for sure, it is only something youheard and thought she should know.

deleted_user 09/06/2011

I'm sorry that I might not be able to add advise, but I know that I just need help right now! I'm going to loose it and I'm going to end up back in the hospital. My life sucks and it just seems like it's not going anywhere. I need to get out of here!!!!!

deleted_user 09/06/2011

I agree with hopeful.

renee1979 09/07/2011

Thanks for the advice! I did tell her today and she wasn't mad at me for telling her. She chose to not believe what was said but i feel better to have told her. What she does from here is her choice. Thanks agin for the advice.

deleted_user 09/07/2011

Hi Renee,

Good for you! As you said, having told her, you have done your part. If she chooses not to believe you, that is completely her issue. You have acted with her best interests at heart. :)

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