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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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searchingforthelight 02/21/2017

A few weeks ago I made a mistake and basically caused a lot of unecessary drama for my friend group. After attending a sleepover they invited me to, I just got so mad the next day because some of them don't talk to me that much this year in grade 10 compared to grade 9. It made me so frustrated to see how easily people can distance from me as soon as new students come into our school. So I simply blocked them on social media but it actually offended them a lot more than I thought. For me it was just a block, but for them it was anger for turning a situation into something it's not. So During school for the past week it has been super awkward and uncomfortable being around them. I got forgiveness from some people, but for others they are still disconnecting from me. I know that I have to face the consequences as I was the one who caused them to be angrily distancing from me now in the first place, but it's just so annoying I want them to move on from it, to just quickly forgive me then we can all live happily again. I sent one friend a long sweet message about it but she just completely ignored it, probably didn't even read it. I don't know what to do, I'm scared it will never turn around. I mean it's only been a few weeks since the incident, but I'm scared that it will continue to be like this in grade 11 and 12, and won't be able to end high school on a good note. I know that no one sticks with all their high school friends in university, I personally know that even when I'm 40 I won't still want to be with certain people. But if I focus on the present moment I still want to make the best out of my years in high school.

ellbell 02/21/2017

I was in your situation a few years ago. I did something that pissed off my friend (long story short she was taking it WAY too seriously and our friendship ended because of it). it's hard, I know it is. I just took it one day at a time. yes I lost lots of friends and yes I got pushed down. but I stood up for myself. it's made me stronger. I know you have the ability to be strong too. if your "friends" are just ignoring you, don't pay them any attention. they're not worth your time if they won't even accept an apology. in my opinion, you didn't even do anything wrong. it's best to let things play out and let the waters calm for a bit. maybe try to make a new friend or hang out with other friends in the meantime. message me to keep me updated!

bridgie101 02/22/2017

'It seems you want to control the situation with your friends, and you want them to get over what you do to them, in your time. That isn't the rule. The rule is they get over it in their time. What you do is your 'turn' as it were. They can take as long as they like to have their turn. And they can choose what they want. And learning this is learning the end of your powers and the beginning of their powers.

You are now at their mercy. And they don't have to read your emails - who knows, maybe they don't have the strength to even click on them. It depends entirely on how many times you've done this sort of thing before.

people around you have a right to be who they are, and to call when they want, talk when they want, go out when they want. You also get to call when you want, talk when you want, etc. You don't have power over when they talk, they go out, they call you. All you can do is be callable, be invitable, be approachable, and hope. Or else do your own calling, approaching, going out.

In short, If others don't talk to you enough all you have any right to do is call them. And if you block people you have no reason to believe they will ever talk to you again. That's what blocking is.

Jwords 02/24/2017

So sorry your overnight turned out this way. Friendships are ALOT of work always !! Yes, we mature and grow up but I like your honesty about the situation, we want our friendships to work out well and in a healthy manner for ourselves and our future. The truth is we all have different emotions and "buttons" that get pushed and it is impossible to unpush the "button". Social media is more powerful than we can see. Our words and what we share is important and communication is not the same for each person unless they are fully understood. Girls tend to be very sensitive and protective. You most likely felt left out of the group at the sleepover, possibly not because of you but because they were protecting themselves. Please forgive yourself, you do not have to be and do things perfectly to have friends. And don't blame them, they are most likely perceiving something you did as trying to send them a message that one or several didn't like. Little circles of friends get so complicated and hard to work out. I definitely think these things happen a lot, I am glad you are writing about it and hopefully you can talk to someone that is a good listener and possibly older than you are that won't judge you or the others in any way, just listen !! Praying for your precious heart to be healed and that kindness and strength are the growth through this.

DestinyShaker 02/25/2017

I had friend problems last year, and I know how stressful it can be. Just try your best to apologize.
that's all you can do. If they can't see that you are trying your best to make it up, then it's their loss. You are trying your hardest, and that's amazing.

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