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studentbydaymombynight
studentbydaymombynight

Today was a rough one. A little background on me, I am a full time student and have to commute 140 miles round trip to school 4 days a week. I also work approx. 25 hours a week and have a family. Today I worked 4 hours then I went to school to try and get some work done that has to be done on campus. I took my two children that still live at home with me and it was a struggle from the moment we got there. My youngest, who is almost 8 was not happy with the games I have downloaded on my tablet and wanted new games to play of course. My daughter, whom I was trying to use for my patient was not feeling well and was being extremely difficult, to put it nicely. I couldn't get the images I needed and that always makes me feel like a failure. I sometimes feel like all this sacrifice is not worth it, like I am failing at everything. Plus, my relationship has suffered so much because of school and I just am ending the night on such a down note to wake up and have to do it all over again. Thank you for listening.

GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
That does sound like a challenging schedule. Do the kids go with you to school often, or are they usually at their school? Is their father around that can maybe help you out with all of this.... or other family? How much more school do you have left?
arfie
arfie
Hello Student. Welcome to DS. Sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here.

That is quite a diverse load you are juggling. Whelming understandable. Jumping from student to employee to mother to lover is no small leap. Stabilizing support needed. I hope you are able to find that key ingredient here.

Still listening. . . Welcome aboard.
Tired
Tired
Can you switch to schooling online for yourself? Something has to change.
Talk to your school counselor or a therapist to get suggestions you maybe
haven't thought of.
Avidreader9559
Avidreader9559
Hi, It seems like you have quite a difficult schedule to keep up with. We can handle only so much stress and pressure as moms/wives/students/employees. As far as your children not wanting to cooperate the way you wanted them to, that happens. They are children, and they tend to want what they want when they want it. At least my children do. It is a constant effort to try and teach them. My youngest is 7. As far as the games were concerned, I would have said something like, "I downloaded these game for you. You can choose to play them quietly while I finish my work or you can lose your privilege of playing." As far as your other child feeling bad and you not being able to get the images you needed, that is not your fault. You are NOT a failure. Things didn't work out the way you had hoped on this day, but that is not a reflection on you or your child.

How much school do you have left? Can you see the light at the end of the tunnel? Will the difference in your salary with a degree be worth the sacrifice now? Can you get some help with the kids from extended family or friends so you can spend some much needed time with your SO.

It is hard to end the day on such a frustrating note. Is there something that you can do before you go to bed that can lift your spirits? Some way to press reset so to speak. Can you read something fun for 15 min or listen to your favorite song, or watch 15 minutes of your favorite TV program, or exercise for 15 min to release endorphins? I hope you find what you need in this season to release some of the stress so that you can keep going forward. Hugs for you.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
You are in the midst of a significant long term goal with education.

You will have to be calm, peaceful, and prepared for all the flexible actions you have with all the activities in your schedule. This means making time to calm yourself when it gets overwhelming, breathing, playing ( five minutes of play with children can change the attitude to positive and yours as well), and to be gentle with yourself.

You are not failing. You have to choose, and you have to make decisions that are not comfortable, and the children will be better for having to share in the decision and the results.

You did the imaging. Lesson learned, figure out ways to help uncomfortable, unhappy, and not feeling good patients to be comfortable in the imaging process.

Give yourself the full confident smile and a positive image every day in the morning and again at night.

You are not alone. Best wishes.
Scaredsilly
Scaredsilly
Just sending lots of good vibes and MAD PROPS for keeping up with this commitment. My best friend did something similar and I remember being in awe of her because I could never do it. I have so much respect for you because, while we all have those bad days, you understand the value of what you are doing.

I promise you, it will pay off. Just in proving to yourself that you have the strength to get this far, it already has. Families do get stressed in situations like these, but please give yourself a little bit of a high-five. Your kids may not express it right now, but they will remember this time in their lives as an example of how you worked so hard to make things better for everyone.
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