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Over sharing

jesshev
jesshev

I have had this problem forever and I didn't even realize it was an issue until I started sharing things about other people and they would get mad at me. 


I just get this overwhelming feeling where I need to say something and if I try to fight the urge to over share, the thought will just continuously loop in my mind and drive me insane. It's usually something about myself that makes me uncomfortabl. Normally I can wait about 5 minutes before I spill the beans. I just make a joke about it and I can't even tell one person.. I want to tell everyone! 


Anyone else deal with this? Is there any techniques I can use to get the thoughts out of my head without telling the world a bunch of embarrassing things about myself or even others?

Istheheaton
Istheheaton
Journal! With free apps at your fingertips it's convenient to type away the thoughts. Also, since you know you can't keep a secret tell others "please don't tell me" or "I'm uncomfortable talking about this. Everyone needs someone they can confide in but unfortunately many people can't keep confidence.
jesshev
jesshev
Ugh. It's just when I'm at work, I'm thinking about it and I don't have time for a journal. I definitely should tell people not to tell me their stuff though. I've gotten better with other people's stuff, it's mostly mine that's an issue now.
Istheheaton
Istheheaton
Can you take your phone to the bathroom at work? Usually just a sentence or two can take some of the load off your mind.
jesshev
jesshev
I could do that but I'm not sure it would help. Normally I have to tell everyone in the damn building. It's like I'm so uncomfortable with myself that I just want to laugh it off with everyone so I feel better. If it's a joke it's funny but when it's in my head it's full blown anxiety.. like if I had an anxiety attack about something before work, the whole staff will know about it in 10 minutes.
jesshev
jesshev
...and we will all be laughing about it because I'll make the experience sound hilarious even though I was terrified as hell
jesshev
jesshev
I think I'm just seeking normality. I want people to laugh because it makes me feel like what I'm going through is funny instead of scary. I have an anxiety disorder and it effects me everyday. I guess humor if my defense against my mind, but there are some things that I have a hard time not sharing and I just wish that I could stop obsessing over them! I will definitely give that video a look after I'm finished with my classes. I'm very interested! And thank you for your insight! It was exactly what I needed to hear
nadia90
nadia90
100% know this feeling! I will sometimes share things not even related to any of the conversations around me, and I can see that it often irritates people, why am I sharing stupid things with them- the other thing is that people often tend to stab you in the back with the misconceived knowledge they think they have about you, so be careful for this. I have not yet discovered a single technique etc..but I have realized that thinking about what I want to say and thinking about how it relates to the situation/conversation will sometimes help me from oversharing. Also sometimes just ignoring conversations I do not know a lot about, therefore not making me able to say unnecessary things.